r/relationships meme

[crocpuppet]

R/RELATIONSHIPS

(yes this is a watermarked stock image, I swear it's an aesthetic choice and NOT because I can't find/edit nice free use images--)


Do you have an issue between you and your partner? Need suggestions on how to get your mom to stop calling you so much? Having a dispute with your roommate you need help negotiating? Need advice from a friend, but don't have any?

Well, good news! You can consult the internet's largest and absolutely most trustworthy social resource, Reddit!


RULES:

1. do NOT put your name/series in the title! Use the title for your relationship question, eg. How Do I Tell My Roommate To Stop Microwaving Fish?


2. (If you want though, include ooc info/preferences [[in brackets]] at the beginning or end of your post)


3. Write out the details for the problem you need help with in your top post, if you'd like! It can be based on canon, or entirely original, you're roleplayers you know the drill


4. Go forth and advise other characters!


5. If you want to do a post based on a different advice subreddit, i.e. like Am I The Asshole, then go for it! Just keep with the comment title-post title format!

I[29F] want to post a meme, but my roommate[35F] keeps slapping my keyboard out of my hand.
[[crocpuppet | OC]]
I get along great with my roommate, but they keep slapping my keyboard out of my hand whenever I try to make a post, how d

I'm in love with someone from a rival company
We're contractually obliged to be mortal enemies, but I can't help feeling lost in their eyes. Should I confess my feelings to them? How can I do that?

AITA for putting my former boss into a potato
She called me a moron and to prove I'm not a moron I compressed her into a potato battery. My now ex-friend was glaring at me when I did it, but my boss WAS mean and she DID provoke me, so I'm not sure I'm TA?

Comments

[hobblepot]

[Five partners? Now that's just greedy, he's tempted to type. Polyamory is definitely not for the kind of man with a vicious jealous streak and no qualms with getting blood on his hands.]

...That's quite the juggling act.

With all due respect, is it truly possible to love and to value your partners equally when they each bring something very different to the table?

[ziggyplayedguitar]

[Ziggy is so used to these kinds of questions that he should have expected them. Still, it always takes him some time to respond to them.]

Polyamory isn't for everyone. There are types of polyamory that wouldn't work for me and my partners either. At the core of it there seem to be values that we all share; friendship first, compassion, love of individuality, desire for companionship/contact, an adventurous side, a certain amount of 'fuck social norms'. All sharing those makes it less of a juggling act since most of my partners are friends/acquaintances. There's no sense of fighting for attention and I don't think any of them would feel put out by one of the others showing up while they were spending time with me.

There is more than one question in that single question. Discussing how I value people equally is probably easier than the rest of it. I've noticed that people put value on things in attempt to put relationships into hierarchies. One big category is that there is some added value or love to whether or not someone sticks their penis into someone else. Another is whether you live in the same building somehow adds or subtracts value, marriage, children, or any number of relation standards people treat as meaning more/less love or more/less value. I don't feel these or use these standards.

There needs to be openness about what both people value and what both people want from the relationship. If those are all met then it is a strong, high value relationship on its own. There's no need to compare that to what a different person wants or values. Relationships, and love, are all about fulfilling each others needs and fitting together in a way that makes you feel like you are more? of yourself when you are together. I adore individuality, the strange things that make people who they are. Difference, to me, is sexy and maybe that bleeds into relationships too? I find such different ways of loving equally interesting, viable and attractive. I see the differences in my partners as value rather than diminishing.

[hobblepot]

Well. My congratulations on the success of your relationships. The depth of the intimacy and trust and understanding you seem not only to have achieved but that you continue to maintain is such that most people can only dream of with one partner, never mind five.

I may be a man of ambition, but I'm quite convinced one lover is good enough for me.

[It feels a little strange, using lover to describe Edward Nygma. He's never had one before.]