The BDSM Lifestyle Meme

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The BDSM Lifestyle Meme

BDSM isn't all about the sex. Sure, handcuffs, whips and chains, toys, power and control-play can be fun, but sometimes it's about the other stuff too. The little stuff. The ways you and your partner give yourselves to each other every day.

So this is a meme to play out safe, sane, consensual and maybe even non-sexual BDSM.



If you want more information, check out:

The Ten Golden Rules of BDSM Negotiation
Sexuality.Org's BDSM Index
The Keys to A Relationship
Extreme Restraints

Be warned: Threads and prompts below may contain triggers, and will contain sexual content.

THE EVERYDAY:
1. feeding: using him as a plate? having her kneel and accept hand-feeding? maybe someone's been very good and should have a tasty reward.
2. bathing: after all, you have to take care of your partner. it's nice to have someone to get lotion in those hard-to-reach places.
3. talking/therapy: how are you going to work out this relationship? what obstacles do you have to overcome?
4. massage: some intimate relaxation.
5. dates: it's good to go out every once in a while.
6. negotiation: to work out what kinks are and are not okay.
7. nonsexual bondage: gags, bridles, chastity belts. some people just like the security of bondage in everyday life.
8. humiliation/in public: take your pet out to show her off; bend him over a bench and spank him for bad behavior.
9. animal play: pony play, pet play.
10. punishment/discipline: someone's been bad. maybe it's time for a time-out. or maybe someone has to clean the bathroom with a toothbrush.
11. other

THE SEXUAL:
1. the light stuff: some handcuffs, some ropes. nothing too extreme. maybe one partner or the other is afraid; maybe it's just time to take a break from the trappings and have some love-making.
2. bondage: chains, or elaborately knotted ropes, or full-body bindings. maybe even suspension in midair.
3. caning/whipping/spanking: for punishment and for enjoyment of the pain.
4. shaving: you like them with smooth skin. no beards, no lovetrail, no hairy legs.
5. piercing/tattooing: a permanent mark of devotion.
6. sensory deprivation: gags, blindfolds, earplugs, to shut out the rest of the world.
7. as therapy: exploring a past trauma or fear.
8. first time: one partner or another is experiencing the kink lifestyle for the first time.
9. kink parties: for casual play. mind the rules; drugs and alcohol are rarely tolerated, and all play must be consensual. or else the host or hostess might get angry.
10. orgasm denial/forced orgasm: until they beg for it, or beg you to stop.
11. ageplay: perhaps someone wants to be treated like a child. maybe a little daddy or mommy kink to go along with it.
12. role-play: taking on roles. master-slave, teacher-student, dragon prince and slave-dancer -- your imagination's the limit.
13. genital torture: pain where you're the most sensitive.
14. electricity: to give things a spark.
15. medical fetish: sounding, stirrups, speculums -- oh, doctor.
16. fucking machines: it'll keep in the same rhythm, no matter how much you beg.
17. other

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[just_a_guy]

He was boneless after he came down from his orgasm, pliant and panting against the pillows as his body released the death grip it had on Bucky...and when his friend started to thrust again, it was smoother. Easier. It didn't drive that sharp ache into his lung every time he thrust into him, and while there was a part of him that missed it, most of him was too exhausted to care.

He moaned when he felt Bucky shudder over him, an imagined slick of heat making him wrap trembling arms around the larger man's shoulders, clumsily stroking over his back. He turned his head to intercept a few of those kisses, turning them into real ones and he couldn't quite help the way his teeth sank into Bucky's lower lip when the larger man separated their bodies.

"Oh-! That...ow..." He made a face, shifting a little so that Bucky was on his back and Steve could curl up against him, his weight off the loudly protesting part of his anatomy. Once he was comfortable, however, he was back to pressing small, chaste kisses against his friend's chest.

[not_a_commie]

Bucky pulls Steve to his chest and hums at the little kisses fingers stroking through Steve's hair. After a moment he pulls Steve up a little into a slow and easy kiss his hand wandering down Steve back, hand rubbing over Steve's ass for a moment, before the fingers dip between the cheeks and into the ring of muscle briefly before with drawing.

He pulls back from the kiss taking a slow breath and smiling at Steve. "I think a hot bath is a good idea." He murmurs a grin still plastered on his face. He doesn't like the idea of the sweat cooling on Steve's skin, it's already cold enough in their apartment. "Wait here a sec Steve." He smiles slipping from the bed and moving to the bath room and filling the tub with hot water.

He comes back a moment later for Steve, taking Steve's hand and tugging him to the bath room. He climbs into the hot water and sinks back leaving space between his legs for Steve. "Come on in we'll clean up warm up and crawl under the blankets."

[just_a_guy]

He was finally starting to catch his breath when Bucky pulled him up for a kiss, the lightheaded sensation faded enough that his body no longer appreciated the subtle stretch of his muscles. He ached...and when those fingers dipped back into him, he broke the kiss with a choked off yelp, one hand reaching back to grab Bucky's wrist. "Ow!...I can't..no more..."

The promise of a hot bath was nice, though, and he nodded, muttering something about working over tomorrow to make up for the extra water. He was already shivering though, and the sticky mess on his chest and thighs was starting to cool and get uncomfortably tacky. While Bucky went to fill the tub, Steve gingerly got out of bed, moving carefully to avoid straining himself and to avoid getting any of the sticky mess on their blankets. It was too cold to wash them...and Steve didn't think he was mental capable of washing them at the moment.

He was wiping at his chest when Bucky came back to collect him, and while he walked a little carefully, he nevertheless followed the larger man to their bathroom, eyeing the little amount of space for a moment before he climbed in. He hissed a little as he leaned back against Bucky's chest, a small pained sound in his throat.

"I don't think I got any on the bed..." Because that was the important thing, right?

[not_a_commie]

"Wouldn't matter if you did Steve..." He says chuckling a little as he wraps his arms around the man and presses a kiss to Steve's neck relaxing for a moment in the hot water before he grabs the wash cloths and soaps it up and starts to wash Steve's stomach and and shoulders working over the blonds body slowly. He rubs at the tight knots in Steve's shoulders humming a little.

"You're not working extra tomorrow... we're sharing so we're saving." He says smirking a bit setting the wash cloth aside and leans back pulling Steve against him. Letting his finger brush through the blond hair. "You okay?"

[just_a_guy]

He didn't bother answering, too busy with letting the heat of the water seep into his body to hold onto the few thoughts that had seemed important at the time. He was shivering for some reason, but the way Bucky's hands were sure and calm on his skin helped, and by the time his friend was finished washing him, the shivering had stopped and he was a boneless lump of contentment against his front.

"Mmm...I think so. I was little fuzzy there for a while afterwards, but I think I'm pretty okay, now. Gunna be one big bruise in the morning, though." There was a hint of a smirk at the end of that sentence, and he lazily grinned up at the other man. "Not that I'm going to complain. Kinda like it, actually..."

[not_a_commie]

"Glad you liked it." he grins chin on Steve's shoulder it's a bit awkward but he manages to catch Steve's lips in a brief kiss. "Only want to give you what you like. God Steve wish you could have seen yourself like that." he says softly kissing Steve on the neck. "Fuzzy is a good look on you..."

[just_a_guy]

He blushed, but returned that kiss, twisting himself a little to make it easier on Bucky's neck. "I probably looked ridiculous..."

Shifting a little, he sighed as he rested his head against Buck's broad chest, listening to the steady thud-ump of his heartbeat.

He didn't even notice when he fell asleep.

[not_a_commie]

Bucky sighs and shakes his head a little and kisses Steve again letting them sit in peaceful silence, Bucky notices When Steve falls asleep and pulls the stopper out with his toes. "Hey Steve... come on, blankets mattress all that is way better then sleeping in a tub." He chuckles a little."

[just_a_guy]

He woke up easily enough, having just barely dozed...but he was heavy limbed and uncoordinated, yawning and rubbing at his eyes with arms that already sported handprints against his fair skin. The towel was rough against his skin, but he was clean.

He didn't want to leave, though. He was damp and naked, standing in a room where he could see his breath if he paid enough attention...but his desire to stay close to Bucky was stronger then his urge to run back to the bedroom and burrow under the probably still warm blankets. As soon as the other man was dry, however, Steve was tugging him back towards the bedroom, climbing into bed and peeking out from under the thick, heavy quilts.

and the end of the magic thread.

[not_a_commie]

[ Bucky gives Steve a slow and easy kiss wrapping his arms around him as he pulls the blankets over their heads creating their own bubble of warmth until morning called them off to work. ]