AITA

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Am I the Asshole? Meme



a meme for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us

r u l e s

• ➤ post with your character


• ➤ in your toplevel, without using names, icly explain a conflict your character has with someone else


• ➤ comment to other characters voting on who the biggest asshole was in their situation: them, the other guy, both or neither


• ➤ defend your opinion


• ➤ profit??

Comments

AITA for simply wanting to arrest a group of thieves that are clearly committing crimes?

[detectiveprinceakechi]

[niiboshi]

...Crimes are illegal, right?

[jadedlynx]

Wanna add the part you're not saying? It's too obvious a case unless something is missing.

[gigolopuff]

You're a cop.

[He's assuming this, even if Akechi appears too young to be one.]

You're the Asshole by default.

[kappalinquent]

Absolutely. What were you thinking.

AITA for attempting to fulfill my oath and get my father's silmarils back?

[holdshisown]

[kind_red]

What does your oath entail?

AITA for pursuing my hobbies?

[buddymcstabs]

I (65M) have a specific hobby people around me aren't supportive of. My gf told me to drop it years ago and we kinda broke up because of it even tho she was into it too and kept doing it even after I (reluctantly) agreed to stop, but we got back together later so I guess she didn't mind it that much?

My first kid's (40?M) been hounding me abt stopping for like three decades now, and some of the other ones have joined him.

They think I should find other hobbies, I think they should let me have my fun and either join in or stop nagging me. So, AITA?

[holdshisown]

What kind of hobbies are you talking about? If they are impacting your familial relationships this much don't you think it might be a good idea to stop?

[witchimage]

NTA. If your partner supports you and enjoys engaging in the hobby with you, I don't see the problem. Your children are entitled to their opinions but should not have the final say over you.

[myfight]

So what's the hobby? Are we talking about collecting stamps or wearing people's skin?

My mother neglected and manipulated me because of her stupid new age religion...

[kuchisake_shojo]

...so when I got the power to control people with my voice I made her serve me. AITA?

[detectiveprinceakechi]

No.

If parents neglect their children, then they deserve and should fear their children's wrath.

AITA for continuing to include the whole family in our holiday tradition?

[witchimage]

My (don'tworryaboutitF) stepchildren (SatanonlyknowsM and mid50sM x 2) have been a very popular and important fixture of our rituals and celebrations, especially within recent years. Typically, they'll only make appearances for our most devoted followers, but I thought it might also be nice for them to show up at our Ministry-wide Yule/Antichristmas party on the 21st.

My son (53M) has been delighting in taking charge of the winter holidays this year and I certainly don't want to step on his little hooves, so I'm a bit worried that I might be the asshole if I make the call to drag out the dead bodies of his half-brothers and decorate them in Krampus horns and tinsel for this event.

MORE INFO: It's worth mentioning that my (for all intents and purposes) husband (ghostM) might feel a bit left out, but it's not like he won't be there in spirit!

[littlesunshine]

THIS IS NOT STEPPING ON MY HOOVES THIS IS [ - control yourself, man.

Ahem. Anyways. The only thing better than him taking charge of Antichristmas is doing it ✨together✨ ]

…this is brilliant. Please, please don’t let the Grinch stop you from doing this.

[ You know who he’s referring to. ]

AITA for wanting to make my son the best martial artist and to be less disrespectful?

[stupanda]

I (Don'tconcernyourselfaboutitM) took my son (currently 18M) when he was barely a few months old from his mother to go trekking around the country and world to train him. I only wanted to make him a worthy successor, and he's been trained well, but the boy gives me lip nearly every single day and cries about how I'm a 'selfish old panda' just because I've made a few brash decisions here and there. What the boy fails to understand is that as his master of the arts and his father, tough choices are necessary to benefit the Anything Goes Martial Arts school and assurance to a better future for us both.

[Wait for it...]

Really, it's harder on me raising that boy and making all those arranged engagements and sacrifices for him. [There it is.] He wasted all our food letting those cats maul him so easily all for a useless technique that was banned for causing 'psychological distress' or whatever it was, I skipped that page. He keeps trying to shirk his responsibilities on his training and his engagements, wanting me to deal with them like he isn't the one engaged to those women. Not to mention the seppuku clause our family signed before I took him training. I worry Ranma's recklessness and ineptitude to take responsibility and honor will result in all three of our deaths.

[Genma crossed his arms with a snort, closing his eyes.]

There's a lot more I could go on about the boy, but this isn't about him. AITA for only wanting to ensure the better of my own flesh and blood?

[alivian]

YTA, and where the hell do I even begin?

I've met your son, however passingly, but I can't claim to speak for him, nor would I. Let me just touch on the bare minimum of shit I can even fucking process.

A infant that's only a few months old is too young to start anything like that, let alone sign a contract. By all sane laws, a child is not legally bound to it. Given the implication that even his mother was in on it, it's disgusting beyond words.

Maybe he doesn't want to fit in the mold you crafted for him. It sure sounds like it, given all the "lip" he gives you. Maybe he doesn't want multiple engagements, and perhaps he wants to choose his own path. But you wouldn't know. You don't listen.

"Psychological distress" is also nothing to sneeze at, but you wouldn't even know that about your son now, would you? You don't care about him. You only want what he can do for you. You see his entire life as something you're owed.

Well, news flash, fuckface: he's not coin to be traded, and he's not yours to hold like a treasure. And that "seppuku" contract you all signed? You can go fuck yourself with it.

I hope he drops you and the rest of your family off into the cheapest retirement home he can find and abandons you for the rest of your sorry, miserable lives.

AITA for making sure my son and husband uphold their honor? (CW: Suicide mention)

[motherknowsless]

I (ItsrudetoaskaladyherageF) am a single mother to a boy (18M?), whom my husband took when he was but only a few months old for a training trip for sixteen plus years in order to hone his craft. At first I was reluctant to let my baby go so soon and for so long, but Genma, my husband, promised me that 'By the time I see him again, he will be a man among men.' And should either he or Ranma fail to live up to this promise, the two of them will commit ritualistic seppuku with me acting as the kaishaku to slice off their heads. I would then follow them to their grave by slitting my own throat.

Genma signed it in writing, and little Ranma signed it in hand paint, and they were off. Every day that passed, I dreamed about what kind of man my son would grow into. Eventually, I couldn't take it anymore and went searching for them, eventually finding them in Nerima. After a series of misunderstandings, I eventually found my son again. And despite his curse turning him into the antithesis of manliness, I could see Ranma had grown into a handsome and manly man, saving my life despite knowing it'd reveal his curse.

I'm currently living with him now, which makes it all the more easier to keep an eye on him to make sure he's still acting manly. Even though I know he won't, I've caught him a few times in some scenarios that make me question whether or not he's truly a 'man among men'. AITA for seeing to it my son and my husband abide by the pledge we all agreed to?

[nueskycutter]

Without knowing the laws of your country, I cannot give a full answer. That being said, I believe that the contract would be null and void as it was not signed by person who was capable of understanding what they were signing.

The fact that the child used a handprint in lieu of an actual signature is proof enough in most nations. Also, to be legally binding, the contract must be witnessed by a lawyer or other legal expert. Who, if they were a decent person, would not allow this to happen.

If your country doesn't need this, you and your husband may be legally bound to follow through, but your son does not.

That being said. The very idea of this is disgusting and yes, you are the asshole.

AITA for trying to poison my stepfamily? (CW: Abuse mention)

[geniuskunoichi]

I (18) was forced to live under my ugly stepfamily after my birth family died. My step-family was jealous of my beauty, and would put me to manual labor doing all the chores and working in the brothel they ran all out of sheer envy. Every day, they made my live an absolute hell, every little thing would earn me derision or discipline... So every opportunity I could, I would attempt to slip poison into their food and drinks to finally get rid of them, but they always saw through it. After a boy in a dotted bandana destroyed the brothel, they forced me to go after him to kill him, where I met Ukyo-sama and Ranma who helped me deal with my stepfamily.

I'm away from them now, and I'm working under Ukyo-sama in her okonomiyaki shop, but sometimes I wonder if I was too harsh with my stepfamily, or if I was too lenient. AITA?

[hitokiri]

NTA. They woulda got what they had comin' to 'em. Some people ain't gonna learn any other way, and anybody who would do that to a kid don't deserve to get away clean.

AITA for wanting to marry the love of my life?

[frecasson]

My father asked for her hand for me, but was refused. Her father, the King, then murdered mine. The only response is war. Yes, I must kill her family to take the throne, yet I believe we can still be together. AITA?

Re: AITA for wanting to marry the love of my life?

[spacetogrow]

INFO: What does she think of this? And how do you know that?

I don't even like my family, but someone murdering them because of me but without my blessing is a threat, not spouse material, so I'd be running as far as I could get from that mess. Someone else would probably start plotting murder, but that's not my style.

AITA I constantly speak in purple prose and am constantly drunk off my ass

[yonghengdemengxiang]

My, such crass words
That flow across the paper
In a slurry of hastened text
Not so unlike the muddy waters
In the wake up a violent storm.

[STOP, STOP IT RIGHT NOW--]

[killereyes]

NTA for the way you talk. It's unique! Actually, now I want to give my prose some purpling.

[ Oh no, Yunaka's vocabulary is already weird. ]

AITA I threatened to light someone up with fireworks if they didn't answer my questions

[gunblessed]

I was on the clock, and they were in the way of our client--Didn't really have a choice.

[You shot at one of their cars on the highway, tHEN GLEEFULLY COMMENTED "OOO IT'S GONNA DO A FLIP" EXU.]

[revengeisalie]

Just for that?

AITA for wanting revenge

[revengeisalie]

I (17F) am still pursuing the killer of my parents (23M), even though I have already caused his expulsion from Edo, my bodyguard killed most of the people who were involved, and there's a part of me that sometimes thinks revenge is just pointless bloodshed. AITA?

AITA for stabbing my mother in the back.

[lordoflies]

I (old-recently reborn god) recently stabbed my mother (ageless) (the only person who ever really believes in me) in the back with a poisoned blade. I had to do it was to save her life, but no one would believe me if I told them. If I wanted her dead, she would be. AITA?

[ The answer is always yes, but he had good reasons. ]

[detoxes]

I don’t think you’re an asshole. You explained it right there - sometimes you gotta deal with the tough stuff and it sure ain’t pretty. Plus you didn’t kill her, so… extra points for that.

AITA for trying to make something nice for my employee

[deadplating]

I (28m) own a small but affluent bistro in France. I recent hired a new waiter (29m) to cover a staffing hole I've been struggling with on a temp basis. Honestly, he's not qualified at all for it. His work history is complete fucking garbage. But he had a big sob story and I needed someone on the floor.

Turns out the sob story was just the start. He's a passable waiter but otherwise he's a wreak. A slob who I doubt has had a decent meal or sleep in years. So I take pity on him and start sending him home with food every night. Tell him it's "leftovers" even though I make them fresh.

Tonight was his last night here, so I go out of my way to make something special. And this pig starts snooping around off limits areas of the kitchen and ruins the surprise. I'll admit I... overreacted. I had some wine in me. But either way he accused me of some disgusting shit and things didn't end well. He won't be coming back tomorrow.

Was ITA for trying to be nice for once?

Re: AITA for trying to make something nice for my employee

[amethystic]

INFO.

what did he accuse you of, and more specifically how did things end? i feel like this too important to leave out.

AITA for leaving too soon after my daughter's death?

[rovingstories]

If I understand this format correctly...

I (385f) am a lore keeper - I travel for my work and I love to travel. My daughter (deceased at 71) in her final years reached out to me and I stayed with her, my grandson (43m) and his daughter (19f). I focused on her needs and her comfort, we went through our process of grieving, and I recorded and reviewed her life with her before she finally passed in around a year since contacting me.

We made sure her story was copied, finalized and stored properly in the town's record keeping and I took the time to make a copy of her story to keep with me from now on. As is common with me, a sense of deep unease was becoming difficult to bear and the whole process of grieving was very overwhelming, and I packed my things to move onward by about two months after her passing.

My grandson said then and still now says that I was very helpful to him, particularly in helping arrange everything that follows a death. But at the same time, my granddaughter is very openly angry with me, saying that I abandoned them afterwards and said something to the effect of "everyone in the family won't tell you no" and accused me of being cold and distant.

I'm sure there's an element of truth to it, I just don't fully understand. I think this question itself has been written rather coldly, but it isn't true that I don't feel anything, I just didn't want to share those feelings very openly... time can get very difficult to understand the way I used to understand it, when I was much younger. But I don't think that's an excuse, if I've been mistreating my descendants. AITA and if so, how so, and how might I change that?

[foxphorus]

While time may be observed and documented, no one views it the same as another, even if your descendants are to reach an age such as yours. This is especially true when dealing with something confusing as grief, which can slow or speed one's perception dramatically. Whether or not two months is adequate grieving time is purely a matter of opinion.

Had you stayed with them often before this?

AITA for not knowing how to break off the multiple engagements I got wrapped up in?

[catsgothistongue]

I (18M) have a greedy, selfish old fool I call my father. Years ago before I was even born, he made an agreement with his friend to engage me to one of his daughters in the future once he finished training me to be a successful heir to him. He never told me about this until after training... Along with the others. Because during my training, Pop's greed influenced him to make deals with all kinds of people: In exchange for whatever he wanted, usually food or money, he'd agreed to sell my hand in marriage to the other person's daughter. Whether it was a dowry a childhood friend's father owned or even just a plate of fish and rice, he'd do anything to get what he wanted Of course, he never ever planned on going through with his end of the bargain, so every time he got what he came for, he'd take me and run.

Most of those engagements came and went, but only two of those stuck around. Said childhood friend, Ucchan, and Akane... But there's also the matter of Kodachi and Shampoo. Kodachi's not actually engaged with me, but she's a nutjob obsessed with me after I accidentally saved her life, and will do anything to get me even if it means poisoning me or going after anyone she thinks is trying to 'steal me' from her. Shampoo, she's engaged to me by the laws of her village. See, if an outsider woman beat a warrior woman who lived in the village, that woman would then be hunted down to the ends of the earth by the warrior she beat until she is killed, all to restore the warrior woman's honor. That's why she chased me down from China in the first place...

... Where I accidentally beat her in another fight, this time as a guy. If an outsider man beat a warrior woman, then they would become engaged. So now I'm stuck in a multiple engagements where girls fight or even try to kill each other, manipulate me, or go as far as to use something to mind control me or Akane, since she was the 'original'. And I don't know how to gingerly break off them without them simply ignoring me, getting hurt, hurting their feelings, or resulting in them losing it and try to put someone in either a hospital or morgue. AITA, because a lot of people certainly have amongst other things...

[*cough cough akane cough cough*]

Re: AITA for not knowing how to break off the multiple engagements I got wrapped up in?

[carried_away]

[Bramble is trying to translate this into Raksura terms... which is hard, because species gap.]

Do you have any other family besides your father to help? I don't know how it works for your people, but if a consort rejected a queen who was courting him, his birth court might get pretty angry if she didn't drop things. That's hard to ignore. Even if he couldn't write, someone would carry news.

You sometimes hear stories about a queen trying to kidnap a consort, or steal one from another queen, and then there's usually a fight and the winner gets what she wants. Or if you're Moon, you hit the queen over the head with a kettle while she's fighting Jade. Jade is our sister-queen, and Moon is her consort.

If it was anyone but a consort and queen, everyone else would tell the people involved to stop being idiots and go sleep with someone else.

AITA for hiding my assassin past? (asking for someone else)

[killereyes]

I have a... buddy who used to be a killer for hire, and they really want to come clean to their other friends, but they're scared of what will happen if they do. WTBTA if they never tell?