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[personal profile] shanliangde 2021-11-12 08:10 pm (UTC)(link)
[ Sorry for the callout, Sang'er, but... ]

Have you learned to handle yourself?
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[personal profile] niexiaojie 2021-11-12 08:20 pm (UTC)(link)
[.... No you're not.]

What is that supposed to mean?
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[personal profile] shanliangde 2021-11-12 08:25 pm (UTC)(link)
[ Mostly not, it's true. ]

That you can use being kinder - which is not necessarily the same as being indulgent - with yourself.
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[personal profile] niexiaojie 2021-11-12 08:28 pm (UTC)(link)
.... No, I can't.
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[personal profile] shanliangde 2021-11-12 09:41 pm (UTC)(link)
As you say, Sang'er.

[ You asked what she meant, and she stands by what she says, but also - not really someone who'll fight over something like this. Even a little. ]
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[personal profile] niexiaojie 2021-11-12 09:52 pm (UTC)(link)
I don't want to be mean, Xichen-jie, but... you really don't know what it's like to be the only girl in this Clan.
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[personal profile] shanliangde 2021-11-12 10:51 pm (UTC)(link)
Truth is not mean. That said, I don't understand how that relates to you not needing to be kind to yourself.
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[personal profile] niexiaojie 2021-11-13 06:44 am (UTC)(link)
Because if I am, then I'm not the person people expect me to be.
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[personal profile] shanliangde 2021-11-13 08:48 am (UTC)(link)
I did not realize you were trying to be the person people expect you to be. That, however, can be reason enough.

[ Not speaking from experience or anything. ]
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[personal profile] niexiaojie 2021-11-13 10:19 am (UTC)(link)
Well, I tried not doing it, and it turns out people don't like that either so

I don't really know what to do anymore.
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[personal profile] shanliangde 2021-11-13 02:16 pm (UTC)(link)
[ Baby girl... ]

Sang'er, if doing what you think they expect, and opposite to what you think they expect, both result in a negative reaction, it is very likely that what they expect and what you think they expect are not the same things. It is all right, but finding out what they actually expect might make things easier for you.
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[personal profile] niexiaojie 2021-11-13 04:20 pm (UTC)(link)
It's not what I think they expect. They've told me. I'm just bad at doing it.