bakerstreet | BDSM LIFESTYLE

The BDSM Lifestyle Meme

BDSM isn't all about the sex. Sure, handcuffs, whips and chains, toys, power and control-play can be fun, but sometimes it's about the other stuff too. The little stuff. The ways you and your partner give yourselves to each other every day.

So this is a meme to play out safe, sane, consensual and maybe even non-sexual BDSM.

If you want more information, check out:

The Ten Golden Rules of BDSM Negotiation
Sexuality.Org's BDSM Index
The Keys to A Relationship
Extreme Restraints

Be warned: Threads and prompts below may contain triggers, and will contain sexual content.

THE EVERYDAY:
1. feeding: using him as a plate? having her kneel and accept hand-feeding? maybe someone's been very good and should have a tasty reward.
2. bathing: after all, you have to take care of your partner. it's nice to have someone to get lotion in those hard-to-reach places.
3. talking/therapy: how are you going to work out this relationship? what obstacles do you have to overcome?
4. massage: some intimate relaxation.
5. dates: it's good to go out every once in a while.
6. negotiation: to work out what kinks are and are not okay.
7. nonsexual bondage: gags, bridles, chastity belts. some people just like the security of bondage in everyday life.
8. humiliation/in public: take your pet out to show her off; bend him over a bench and spank him for bad behavior.
9. animal play: pony play, pet play.
10. punishment/discipline: someone's been bad. maybe it's time for a time-out. or maybe someone has to clean the bathroom with a toothbrush.
11. other

THE SEXUAL:
1. the light stuff: some handcuffs, some ropes. nothing too extreme. maybe one partner or the other is afraid; maybe it's just time to take a break from the trappings and have some love-making.
2. bondage: chains, or elaborately knotted ropes, or full-body bindings. maybe even suspension in midair.
3. caning/whipping/spanking: for punishment and for enjoyment of the pain.
4. shaving: you like them with smooth skin. no beards, no lovetrail, no hairy legs.
5. piercing/tattooing: a permanent mark of devotion.
6. sensory deprivation: gags, blindfolds, earplugs, to shut out the rest of the world.
7. as therapy: exploring a past trauma or fear.
8. first time: one partner or another is experiencing the kink lifestyle for the first time.
9. kink parties: for casual play. mind the rules; drugs and alcohol are rarely tolerated, and all play must be consensual. or else the host or hostess might get angry.
10. orgasm denial/forced orgasm: until they beg for it, or beg you to stop.
11. ageplay: perhaps someone wants to be treated like a child. maybe a little daddy or mommy kink to go along with it.
12. role-play: taking on roles. master-slave, teacher-student, dragon prince and slave-dancer -- your imagination's the limit.
13. genital torture: pain where you're the most sensitive.
14. electricity: to give things a spark.
15. medical fetish: sounding, stirrups, speculums -- oh, doctor.
16. fucking machines: it'll keep in the same rhythm, no matter how much you beg.
17. other

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[ Open to anything. Huaisang would be on the sub side. ]

[ ota ]

[ Prefer to be on the sub side. femdom extra appreciated. ]

[ kinks ]

( m/f. preference on cloud being the dominant. particularly interested in the sexual 3, 6, 8, 10-12. )

(Care of a Tifa? All of those prompts you listed are A+ to me. I do prefer prose but if you like brackets you don't have to match.)

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traptsongstress - 2021-03-02 06:19 (UTC) - Expand

Down for basically anything above

[[ooc: talking therapy/negotiation is a huge plus, and what I'm looking for at the moment. He leans submissive but not 100 percent of the time, and aftercare for either side of the coin is a big must.]]

The fire is crackling the library of Henry's home, the walls lined with books, the lights low as he lays across the slightly overstuff sofa the smoke from the hookah out of his mouth. The lights turned down low in the warm room as the wind and rain blustered outside.

He looks over the edge of the book he's reading and a small smile flickers across his face. "What are you thinking about? You haven't turned a page in about five minutes."

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[Steph is a sub; up for all of the prompts except medical fetish and shaving. Happy to play around with Victorian setting or modern AU.]

[sub role; open for all everyday prompts; if we go sexual, most interested in 2, 3, 6, 7, 10; bonus points for as therapy if we can swing it; soubi's got some rough history so please check out his profile or PM me if you have questions; open to canon, canon AU, canon smashing/cross-canon, full AU]

[Would like to avoid 13, but other than that: have at.]

[Open to percy playing dom or sub! Especially looking for either Vex or Vax but ota!]

((x2 eldritch god? I haven't explored Caduceus's kinks, but I've been spoiled on future 'aroace' canon things (only just finished ep 69 earlier). that said, I could see him being sex-positive to an extent, definitely into talking/therapy, bathing, massage. Things along that nature, certainly enjoying having his partner feel good. Sub by proxy, though perhaps reading Percy more than he might like.))

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[ a vampire turned in the 1950s by a man with whom she had an affair. overcome with the exceptional bloodlust this particular vampire's bloodline caused, peggy snapped at a dinner party and took the lives of her husband, young children and friends.

don't worry, she's learned some control since then, though she still struggles and tries to keep her distance from people, for their sakes.

sometimes, however, she gets horny. when in close quarters with others, humans in particular, she prefers to maintain utter control. stillness and obedience are key, and would be forcefully enacted if her partner becomes uncompliant.

i'd prefer to write her with a human or younger supernatural type who she could easily overpower. here for overstimulation, forced orgasm, shades of 'fucking machine', and maaaaybe some dubcon and bloodplay, if she gets overexcited. assumed cr preferred; pm to talk. ]

[ I'd love to toss Stone at you - he's a highly obedient type, strong but more than willing to ignore his own skills if ordered to do so. I'm up for everything you mentioned, dubcon included! If you're down, lmk and I'm happy to write a starter; if not, that's totally cool. :) ]