BDSM Lifestyle Meme

[maliceaforesock]

 The BDSM Lifestyle Meme

BDSM isn't all about the sex. Sure, handcuffs, whips and chains, toys, power and control-play can be fun, but sometimes it's about the other stuff too. The little stuff. The ways you and your partner give yourselves to each other every day. 

So this is a meme to play out safe, sane, consensual and maybe even non-sexual BDSM. 

If you want more information, check out: 

The Ten Golden Rules of BDSM Negotiation 
Sexuality.Org's BDSM Index 
The Keys to A Relationship 
Extreme Restraints

Be warned: Threads and prompts below may contain triggers, and will contain sexual content.

THE EVERYDAY: 
1. feeding: using him as a plate? having her kneel and accept hand-feeding? maybe someone's been very good and should have a tasty reward. 
2. bathing: after all, you have to take care of your partner. it's nice to have someone to get lotion in those hard-to-reach places. 
3. talking/therapy: how are you going to work out this relationship? what obstacles do you have to overcome? 
4. massage: some intimate relaxation. 
5. dates: it's good to go out every once in a while. 
6. negotiation: to work out what kinks are and are not okay. 
7. nonsexual bondage: gags, bridles, chastity belts. some people just like the security of bondage in everyday life. 
8. humiliation/in public: take your pet out to show her off; bend him over a bench and spank him for bad behavior. 
9. animal play: pony play, pet play. 
10. punishment/discipline: someone's been bad. maybe it's time for a time-out. or maybe someone has to clean the bathroom with a toothbrush. 
11. other

THE SEXUAL:
1. the light stuff: some handcuffs, some ropes. nothing too extreme. maybe one partner or the other is afraid; maybe it's just time to take a break from the trappings and have some love-making. 
2. bondage: chains, or elaborately knotted ropes, or full-body bindings. maybe even suspension in midair. 
3. caning/whipping/spanking: for punishment and for enjoyment of the pain. 
4. shaving: you like them with smooth skin. no beards, no lovetrail, no hairy legs. 
5. piercing/tattooing: a permanent mark of devotion. 
6. sensory deprivation: gags, blindfolds, earplugs, to shut out the rest of the world. 
7. as therapy: exploring a past trauma or fear. 
8. first time: one partner or another is experiencing the kink lifestyle for the first time. 
9. kink parties: for casual play. mind the rules; drugs and alcohol are rarely tolerated, and all play must be consensual. or else the host or hostess might get angry. 
10. orgasm denial/forced orgasm: until they beg for it, or beg you to stop. 
11. ageplay: perhaps someone wants to be treated like a child. maybe a little daddy or mommy kink to go along with it. 
12. role-play: taking on roles. master-slave, teacher-student, dragon prince and slave-dancer -- your imagination's the limit. 
13. genital torture: pain where you're the most sensitive. 
14. electricity: to give things a spark. 
15. medical fetish: sounding, stirrups, speculums -- oh, doctor. 
16. fucking machines: it'll keep in the same rhythm, no matter how much you beg. 
17. other

Please do NOT leave your comment blank! (Blank comments will not be deleted, but we highly recommend that you post something.) Either write a note on desired kinks/undesired kinks or create a scenario or fill out the textarea below: 
<b>Character Description:</b><br />KINKS<br /><b>YES:</b> <br /><b>MAYBE:</b><br /><b>NO:</b>

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nishitani homare | yakuza 0 | ota 20+

[bloodchub]

Character Description: Feral middle-aged yakuza patriarch with more money than sense and an inclination for violence. He lives by his whims, which centre purely around fighting, fucking, and living in excess.
KINKS
YES: Everything bar the few options in the No category. For ageplay, he'll gladly be the worst daddy in the world (to a partner who fits the age limit: he has standards), but for everything else listed here, he'll probably sub.
NO: Electricity, genital torture, shaving (I like my yakuza oyajis hairy), or piercing/tattoos (I also like them with their irezumis immaculate).

Nie Huaisang | The Untamed

[eternalgrief]

[ He's most likely to be the submissive.

Open to:

Everyday: 2-11
Sexual: all, but especially 7, 10, 16 ]

Stiles Stilinski | Teen Wolf | m/m

[snarkycomments]

[ kinks ]

Jin Ling | The Untamed | OTA

[jinlingers]

[ Bratty sub whether he's top or bottom position wise.

The everyday: OTA, especially 2 and 10

The Sexual: Anything goes but gore/vore/scat. Long and short term orgasm denial, forced orgasms and ruined orgasms are all very high on the list of YES. Everything else listed is great. Age gap is a definite plus but not a must. Anything you have a question feel free to ask. ]

Jemma Simmons | Agents of SHIELD

[biochemistry]

[ota with f/f preference; she's 100% the sub, and her general preferences are here. Jemma has some very hard lines, but if they're respected and if she trusts her partner, honestly submission is a love language for her. She thrives on being good and being taken care of.

Yes: everyday 1-7, sexual 1, 2, 6 (yes to blindfolds and gags, no to hearing deprivation), 8.
Maybe: everyday 8 (public yes, humiliation no), 7, 9, 10, 12.
No: the rest.]

Nymeria Sand | GOT/ASOIAF

[whiplike]

[ota with f/f preference, modern also available; she tends toward being a domme, but she'll submit to the right female partner. She likes sensation and consensual mischief, but she can go a bit harder if it suits.

Yes: everyday 1-7, sexual 1-3, 6-10.
Maybe: everyday 8, sexual 12, 14, 16.
No: the rest.]

[ladyxwolf]

[ ooc: Any chance you'd be interested in having Sansa as Nymeria's sub? Maybe with combo of sexual 6 & 10? ]

Nora Gainesborough | True Blood

[mendacium]

[ota; Eric is the only one she'll let tie her up, but others she trusts and admires will likely see her submissive side as well. Mostly, though, she's a domme, and while she can be quite hardcore, she's surprisingly careful with her partners.

Yes: everyday 1 (including her feeding on someone)-8, sexual, 1-3, 6-10.
Maybe: everyday 8 (yes public, maybe humiliation), 10, sexual 12, 14, 16.
No: the rest.]

Helena Bertinelli | Birds of Prey

[ammazzari]

[f/f; ask her once and she'll say she's a switch, and technically she could top if asked, but her instincts are very submissive. She likes playing a little rough and, honestly, she likes hearing she's a good girl too.

Yes: everyday 1-7, sexual 1, 2, 6, 7, 8.
Maybe: everyday 8 (public yes, humiliation no), sexual 9, 10, 12, 16.
No: the rest.]

Stiles Stilinski | Teen Wolf | M/M

[runningwithwolves]

(Kinks)

Duo Maxwell | Gundam Wing | M/M

[deathsangel]

(Kinks)

Katara | Avatar The Last Airbender

[waterbendingmaster]

(Kinks)

Tifa Lockhart | Final Fantasy VII | M/F

[mylockedheart]

(Kinks and only Final Fantasy or Kingdom Heart muses please)

Tim Stoker | The Magnus Archives | OTA

[alongkayakingtrip]

Character Description: An overview of Tim Stoker, disaster bisexual of the Magnus Institute.
KINKS
Down with whatever on the list, and especially:
EVERYDAY: 2, 4, 5, 7, and 8; and SEXUAL 2, 3, 6, 10, 12, 14 and 16.

Like we agreed.

[thecompulsion]

[Jon Sims is here and not here. Gone and not gone because he doesn't really want to do this. Tim Stoker dragged his body out of the Unknowing and left him for the Beholding to finally claim him.

There is resistance in his mind, but it is only slight. He is after all helping him.]

Do you know what power is Tim? Real power?

Xander Harris l M/M

[xander_harris]

Character Description:Bottom/Sub. Shy and nervous but obeys. [Would like a vampire or demon please]


KINKS

YES:The Everyday
1,2,3,4,5,6,7,10
The Sexual: 1,2,3,4,6,7,8,10,14,16

MAYBE:8,9,9,12,


NO:The everyday: 5
The Sexual: 11,13,15

Sansa Stark | GoT | OTA

[ladyxwolf]

[ ooc: m/f or f/f or sub to a couple? canon-ish, crosscanon, all the au's. Sansa is 100% the sub. ]

Yes:
Everyday: 1, 2, 4, 5, 8, 10
Sexual: 1, 2, 3, 6, 8, 9, 10, 16

Maybe:
Everyday: 3, 6, 7, 9
Sexual: 4, 5, 7, 12

No:
Sexual: 11, 13, 14, 15

8, 10

[kingnamedstark]

It started off as a game for him, seeing how many times he could let his hand brush against hers during the feast or his knee or foot brushing hers. Eventually, it progressed to where they were rubbing each other's legs with their feet. All without the lords noticing, too much in their cups to catch the intimate looks between Robb and Sansa. So when his hand slipped over into her lap, sneaking under her skirts and up between her thighs, he wasn't too concerned with someone seeing.

They were already seated close to each other, more than necessary as no one else was at the main table. Most would think it was to allow them the chance to talk over the noise, but in truth, it was so he could smell her, feel her close to him and let his lust out a bit. With his inhibitions lowered, he didn't hesitate to touch her, running his fingers between her moist lips as he teased and circled the spot he knew would drive her mad.

"Don't make a noise," he murmured, letting his fingers move more quickly. "You can't release in front of them."

Viola Avelide | Original | OTA

[ebony_wings]

Character Description: An affable rich girl who is a book nerd and a goth streak, is also a raven harpy where that applies. Tends to tell morbid jokes and gets too curious for her own good. Switch, but generally tends to be submissive.

KINKS
YES:
The everyday: All of them, with special interest to 1 3 and 7. Ask me before 8.
The sexual: 2, 3, 5-8, 10-12 with particular interest to 2 and 12.
Also: consider playing with magical restraints, doing tasks while bound, or restrictive outfits.

MAYBE: Anything not in no.
NO: Genital torture, gore, bathroom stuff.

Halloween Jack ◇ Diamond Dogs

[apocalypsejack]

Character Description:Non-binary, Omnisexual, Alien hybrid prostitute and gang leader with a love for drugs, drinking, and theft. Will work for food, especially exotic foods or sweets.
KINKS
YES: Submissive preferred Everyday 1-6, 8(public); Sexual: 5-8 (Has empathic and telepathic abilities but they're uncontrolled)
MAYBE: Dominant partner in the above
NO: Anything involving physical damage (alien biology; fragile bone structure), anything else not listed

[angelic_asshole]

Such choice, now I don't even know where to start.

[Balthazar didn't like the "will work for food" part though since it was Jack putting himself out for show to gain such treats. Yet, he was going to force himself to be mature about the matter.]

Public sex including fucking on a burst bouncy castle? That was good fun.

Tony Stark | MCU

[irondad]

( prefs, previous cr & 25+ preferred. Up for at least starting with an everyday scenario, really up for 7 👍🏻

Yes:
Everyday: 2, 3, 5, 7
Sex: 1, 3, 6, 10

Maybe:
Everyday: 3, 6, 9, 10
Sex: 2*, 4, 7, 9, 11, 12, 14, 15

No:
Everyday: 1, 8
Sex: 5, 8, 13, 16

*no full-body or wrist/arm bindings )

Mix of Everyday 5 & 7? Let me know if you want anything changed.

[wintersheart]

Life is busy enough that it's hard to carve out time sometimes. Between the company and Tony's getting lost in his next bit of tech that he works on when not at the company, and Lyanna's work on the PR side of things for the company, she's glad that they're having a date night tonight. Some well needed couple time that she wanted to soak up.

Though, in their bedroom, she's sitting on the end of the bed looking dainty and soft. She's only in her underwear so far, the dress she's planning to wear hanging on the back of the closet as her gray eyes following Tony around the room, curious on what he'd had planned as something fun that could be worn under her dress to up the anti a little while they were out in public. "What were you thinking, love?"

Natasha Romanoff | MCU | OTA

[bornrussian]

Character Description: submissive leaning switch

Particularly interested in exploring using BDSM as therapy, it being an actual and active lifestyle (might have to be a non-Avengers AU), and suspension bondage/tattoos/a little bit of pain play. Open to everything but the NOs below. (Though let's talk about animal play, genital torture, or electricity first.)

NO
The Sexual - 9, 11, 12, 15

caitlin snow — dctv

[trigeminalheadache]

[ 21+ only, most likely the sub. possibly will domme for previous cr (or players of previous cr) with discussion.

NO:
everyday: 8 (humiliation)
sexual: 7, 8, 13
no gore, vore, vomit, scat ]

Stephen Day | A Charm of Magpies | m/m

[thejusticiar]

Character Description: Kink preferences; magic practitioner and law enforcer from Victorian era England (open to modern day AUs); Stephen is a consummate bottom.

KINKS
YES:

Everyday: 2, 3, 5, 6, 7, 8, 10
Sexual: 1, 2, 3, 6, 7, 8, 10, 16

NO:

bathroom fetishes, children (under 16), emetophilia, hetero sex, infantilism, vore

[casuistic]

Hi. If you'd be interested, I'd suggest a modern day AU. Perhaps with some assumed CR sprinkled in. Let me know! C:

Kylo Ren/Brianna Solo • r63!Star Wars • ota

[umbraeternam]

[ dominant by default (and somewhat out of habit); can be some degree of submissive but trust is a hard requirement. quite frankly she feels safer in control of anything she can be, and if trust doesn't exist she will violently fight against giving up any iota of control. she also has some triggers that aren't entirely conscious which makes trust all the more essential.

she's inclined toward dominating male partners, at least until there's some level of trust, but is a little more flexible from the get-go with female partners. as a domme she can be surprisingly attentive, and depending on her mood may be more interested in topping from the bottom vs being outright dominant/in control. she could possibly be very receptive to a service top style dominant; it's not that she's opposed to exploring things but she's had more than her fair share of experience being manipulated and dealing with unhealthy dominant personalities, and she refuses to be taken advantage of sexually.

very here for toying with kink within world confines, ie. what might a kink relationship look like if she were in the Resistance and her partner preferred her strict/aggressive/controlling in the bedroom, or how would it look if in the First Order and needing to balance the behavior and image of a ruler with sexual needs/wants. but also perfectly fine with a more "isolated" scene that doesn't play off in-universe dynamics or activities as much. also good with situations where perhaps she's left the First Order but isn't a part of the Resistance and is flying solo, so to speak.

canonmates (especially Poe, Rey, Finn) or prior/established CR may work best, but always open to cross canon, AUs, and OCs as well.

Yes:
Everyday - 2 (likely dominant), 3, 4, 6, 7 (likely dominant only), 8 (dominant only), 10 (likely dominant only)
Sexual - 1, 2, 3 (likely dominant only), 5 (dominant only), 6 (as dominant, anything; as submissive, depends on method/context), 7 (possibly), 8, 10, 13 (dominant only), 16.
No: Ageplay (age differences are fine, however). Not interested in Kink Parties. Not terribly interested in Shaving either, outside of as a trust exercise or expression of trust.
Maybe: Anything not listed. Though Electricity could be iffy for her on either side (she's been on the receiving end of Force Lightning more than a few times). Also, I'm very game for animal play (likely with her as dominant) but she may need some convincing, or to play out the characters discovering an interest in it. ]

let me know if you want anything changed. Mix of Everyday 8/10 with sexual 6

[ladyxwolf]

Sansa doesn't remember how long she's been Bri's anymore. One day she'd been a Lady in Westeros, betrothed to a cruel prince that had slain her family, and the next she'd been taken as a spoil of war when the Empire came to Westeros. Gone was the cruel prince that had beaten her, and in his place was a woman that made her kneel and obey but also made her body sing in ways Sansa wasn't sure she'd ever been able to imagine. Ways that made her crave to be a good girl, if only so that she could have more of the pleasure that could course through her body. In some ways, it wasn't too much different than how she'd been raised to spend her life. In service to someone else, seeing after their wants.

Not that she didn't occasionally have her streaks of rebellion all the same. Though deep down, part of it was because she craved the discipline as much as the pleasure. The firmer hand that kept her in place, that turned her skin red. It brought a wetness between her thighs and a tremble to her body just anticipating what kind of punishment she might receive. And if the punishment would be in the privacy of Bri's room or in a more public manner.

She'd been bratty recently, in a mood that lead to punishments. Which is why the delicate gold collar has been replaced by something a little more useful with a ring in the center of it so she can be leashed and lead around on her hands and knees like the bedslave she is. Though currently she's kneeling next to Bri's chair, her dress simple and merely meant to cover her unless Bri otherwise wants her bare, with nothing underneath it of course. Not that she knows what's going on around her, because there's a blindfold over her eyes to keep her from being able to see the punishment coming. All she has is sound, straining to try and hear anything in advance.

Poe Dameron (AU) • Star Wars • ota

[poeticforce]

[ switch by default, leaning submissive. bratty/mouthy sub (particularly initially) but is very capable of behaving; not so much bratty out of defiance but simply his normal personality. he definitely has a thing for strong women. service top/caring dom; in a relationship he tends to be more about his partner's needs/pleasure than his own, and this generally reflects regardless of which side of the power dynamic he's on. he can be more strict (if needed) but in such cases is also a good example of how doms can need aftercare too after a scene.

I'm down for a lot, with variance based on character relationship/dynamics. very here for sex as therapy, ie. working through feelings of "capture/torture is bad but bondage/sexy torture can feel good" and similar things. or general, two people wanting to try things out since they're living in the middle of a war and who knows what could happen the next day. toying with power dynamics is also a personal fave; I'm always game for things like day-to-day shows one side of a relationship but in private or in the bedroom the roles are reversed (or blurred), the one who's dominant in the bedroom making the other wear something under their clothes while they're out doing everyday things (could be a toy, chastity, or simply a very subtle collar/cuff), subtle power play stuff like something said/done in the everyday has a consequence in private. all of which could also get played up depending on characters given military statuses and all.

open to canonmates, cross canon, AUs, OCs, and timeline shenanigans. good with established or assumed CR as well.

No: Ageplay.
Virtually anything else listed is a possibility, lol. ]

akemi morishita | original | m/m

[cupidite]

( sub. probably just doing it for fun and/or money initially, but it could evolve into something more. definitely the bratty type.

not interested in feeding, shaving, piercing/tattooing, genital torture, medical, or electricity. )

Jesse Pinkman | Breaking Bad

[yeahmagnets]

[m/f or m/m. canon-mates, cross-canon, ocs. up for punishment/discipline, the light stuff, caning/whipping/spanking, or orgasm denial/forced orgasm. open to other prompts if you want something i didn't list.]

[dadyl]

( ooc: arya player here! 😈 i'm thinking something assumed cr-wise where jesse has been staying with daryl (basically redneck mike) to lay low, on the condition that he follows rules or gets hit? jesse just gets to choose where, and things escalate. it's a pretty easy crossover to have daryl's brother be tangentially connected to jack's gang, if we need some additional context for how they met. )