r/relationships

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R/RELATIONSHIPS

Post a top level with a description of your character's relationship, past or present or general trend, romantic/sexual or not, and don't use names. Other characters chime in with advice... or condemnation. Don't post blank top levels.

Have fun, or at least try to hide the tears.

Comments

We keep trying to kill each other. Is this love?

[ikonsuit]

What it says on the tin.

Lots of murder attempts.
No successes.

A few scrapes and bruises, though.
She breaks my arm. I dislocate her shoulder. We kiss in the morning.
You know. The usual.

Still. This is not what I thought married life would be like.

Am I doing this right?

[guessmonsta]

. . .

Dude... She breaks your arm? What kinda superwoman— Did you two also try killing each other befooreeee the marriage?
I will say ... Itdoesntsoundrightnope—

[theravager]

Jesus, you sound like my parents.

[whippings]

I would suggest a restraining order.

Should we consider this a confession?

[vengaboy]

Well I don't see the problem.

My father [65M] tried to frame my [17F] adopted brother [24M] for murder. Should I forgive him?

[whippings]

Please note, I am not asking about the legality of my father's actions. He is a murderer, plain and simple. I am simply questioning if ethically, I would be quite within my rights to never speak to him again.

My younger brother and I are not close. His biological father was one of the people my father murdered.

It's complicated.

franny <3

[carryon_crow]

Wow, this is better than a stage play! Forgiveness is pretty tricky to figure out, huh? I usually leave that kinda topic to priests, but sounds to me like you've already decided not to forgive him.

[dontbetoncurry]

Eh, ethics aside, sounds like he was sloppy if you found out.

You really want to deal with that. Unless there is something to be gained from it, which it doesn't sound like there is. Ethics are weird, just go with your gut.

[ohwyrm]

You'd be well within your rights to never see that bastard again, sire or no. Even so, I would be wary of carrying a grudge in your heart - that sort of fury can burn you alive if you're not careful, and leave naught but ash and misery in its wake.

[He may or may not have some experience on that front]

[strontiumdog]

I'm [28M] interested in my viking bounty hunting partner [30M] who I brought to the future. Is this ethical?

I'm a 22nd Century bounty hunter. About five years ago during a time job, I travelled to 793AD to apprehend some fugitives who escaped custody by fleeing back in time and hiding out in backwater Scandinavia.

This big viking fella thought I was a demon and tried to drown me, but we fixed that misunderstanding. I ended up having to enlist the help of the locals to get to my bounties, and I really got to know him over time. We ended up saving each other's lives a few times, and when it was time for me to go back, he wanted to come with me.

I didn't see the harm in it, and he's adjusted fairly well to the future, save for a few hiccups with technology. Pretty decent backup with a sniper rifle, though. He's the best bounty hunting partner I could ask for, and I'm sort of hoping he'll be my life partner. But I'm not too sure what he'll think of it. I've been told there might be some shaky ethics on even asking, considering the whole circumstances, but I'm not too sure on that.

Penny for your thoughts?

I (145+M) have a difficult time confessing my feelings.

[poisesidon]

Ah, I suppose this is “what it says on the tin”. That is how the saying goes, yes?

The one I love is an important person, someone who has a lot of responsibility and a lot of expectations placed on them. I cannot be someone who places more pressure on them, despite how I feel.

But I truly care about them, and I want them to know they have my support. Yet I feel this is also me being rather pushy.

What should I do?

[seasung]

Hmmm. So you decided how your confession will affect this person before they even had a chance to experience it for themself. That is also a form of "pushy."

You seem interested in sayings, so I will "share" with you one that I learned over my past few years of living a human life, up on the surface: "love will save the world".

Why would they have this saying if it wasn't true? Tell this person that you love them as soon as possible, please.

My best friend (102M) blamed me (40M) for everything bad in his life.

[rollstoseduce]

After twenty years of friendship and adventures together, of sharing campsites and piss tasting ale, of tending his wounds and writing songs to his name, my best friend (although he doesn't like using the word 'friends') told me that all those bloody absurd decisions of his were my fault and life taking me off his hands would be the greatest blessing.

I haven't seen him since then, but his presence and my own reputation haunt me. I'm known across the land for my retellings of his heroics, and that's what my beloved audience has come to expect from my performances. Yet singing about him doesn't feel right when my heart isn't into it.

Should I try to reinvent myself as an artist? Or should I be trying to reconnect with him? He's usually an "actions speak louder than words" kind of man, and I could mayhap believe he didn't truly mean what he said in a moment of misdirected anger. But there's something to be said about being left alone to climb down a treacherous mountain after a failed dragon hunt.

[evil_isevil]

Hm. It sounds like you should move on, find someone else and write their songs.

[ Because he doesn't deserve friends.

And yes, he was grumpy and pissed off and said all those mean things in a moment of misdirected anger but will NEVER admit to it. ]

And for the record, he's probably relieved you made it down the mountain without attracting any more trouble than you already have.

my (15F) best friend (???) is a demon who keeps crawling out of my step-mother's mirror.

[saymy_name]

How do I get him to stop before my step-mom banishes him for good?

Very excited to read how strangers could help me in this very specific situation.

[krmvgivv]

1. Are there other mirrors he can crawl out of?

2. Do you want him to be crawling out of mirrors at all?

3. Have you made any deals with him? Because making deals with demons can go REALLY badly.

I (34M) fell for a blond haired blue eyed fuckboy (20M). Let me explain.

[trapqueen]

I heard about him from a handful of mutual acquaintances and even more complete strangers. I knew what to expect before anything happened. I haven't been in a relationship in at least a decade, and I'd come to terms with the fact that it was unlikely that I would find anyone suitable for me.

So when I finally see him in person, I'm ready to defend myself from whatever charms he might have tried to use on me.
It turns out he's a virgin with at least 3 different individuals that I know of trying to get in his pants. I couldn't have misinterpreted a situation more.

Knowing all of this, I became one of those individuals.
Please advise.

yessss andreaaaaa

[carryon_crow]

I've heard of celibate people before but that's some next-level virgin powers. Oh, oh, you don't think he literally has special powers tied to his virginity, do you? That'd be cool!

friemesis (22M) kissed me (21M) out of nowhere and i might be bi

[bisexualdisaster]

So like this guy and I didn't even LIKE each other until a few months ago. Then we started spending time together and it turned out he isn't nearly as lame and boring as I thought and we were kinda sorta maybe friends??? I mean I thought we were. Except then we were at a party and he vanished and when I went to go see what was wrong he grabbed me and kissed me.

Thing is, I'm straight. Or at least, I thought I was. I've always liked girls. And sure, I might have fooled around a little with a guy friend in high school, but who hasn't? But kissing this guy was different and I definitely liked it and I can't stop thinking about it.

Worst of all, he's the one I'd probably talk to about this except he's fucking GHOSTED me. I just want to kiss him again and again until things start making sense but I CAN'T because he's gone and ignoring all my texts and making me deal with this all on my own.

So it's possible I'm not as straight as I thought.

[princebuttercup]

friemesis might also be dealing with awkward feelings. could explain ghosting you.

but if you're kissing guys and girls and enjoying it, it sounds like you are not at all as straight as you thought.

does friemesis know, or does he think you are straight?

I (20M) met a guy (25?M) and now he won't stop following me everywhere.

[coraza]

We first met years ago, got into a fight. I stabbed him, he stabbed me, the usual. I thought I got him off my back, but now he won't stop showing up everywhere I go. It's gotten so bad to the point where I hear him in my sleep, and I see him in places where he isn't.

One of these days I'm going to end up running into him. I'll have to confront him, I know that.

How do I make him understand to leave me the hell alone?

[sefirot]

You can't.

[ohwyrm]

Stab him again.

[counseling]

Have you tried sitting down and talking with him?

I feel like I'm taken. For granted.

[sharktrash]

I've (22M) been in a business arrangement with my partner (24M) for years. I would say we're best friends. I've turned down other offers for him despite him never making anything official, because it just wouldn't feel right for me to be with anyone else at this point, and I know for a fact he would not take well to me leaving. I run most of our joint business and babysit our trashy colleagues, including him. We work where we live so it's a 24/7 commitment.

However I've been wondering if I'm more invested than he is. He always throws things at me. I've (almost) died in front of him and he laughed it off. He didn't look too surprised when I made a recovery, but how do I know whether it's faith in me or lack of giving a fuck? We've gotten a lot closer since then, so maybe he would react different now, but next time I might not be able to check??

How do I make sure he appreciates me as much as I obviously deserve?