The BDSM Lifestyle Meme

[ladyboneranon]

The BDSM Lifestyle Meme

BDSM isn't all about the sex. Sure, handcuffs, whips and chains, toys, power and control-play can be fun, but sometimes it's about the other stuff too. The little stuff. The ways you and your partner give yourselves to each other every day.

So this is a meme to play out safe, sane, consensual and maybe even non-sexual BDSM.



If you want more information, check out:

The Ten Golden Rules of BDSM Negotiation
Sexuality.Org's BDSM Index
The Keys to A Relationship
Extreme Restraints

Be warned: Threads and prompts below may contain triggers, and will contain sexual content.

THE EVERYDAY:
1. feeding: using him as a plate? having her kneel and accept hand-feeding? maybe someone's been very good and should have a tasty reward.
2. bathing: after all, you have to take care of your partner. it's nice to have someone to get lotion in those hard-to-reach places.
3. talking/therapy: how are you going to work out this relationship? what obstacles do you have to overcome?
4. massage: some intimate relaxation.
5. dates: it's good to go out every once in a while.
6. negotiation: to work out what kinks are and are not okay.
7. nonsexual bondage: gags, bridles, chastity belts. some people just like the security of bondage in everyday life.
8. humiliation/in public: take your pet out to show her off; bend him over a bench and spank him for bad behavior.
9. animal play: pony play, pet play.
10. punishment/discipline: someone's been bad. maybe it's time for a time-out. or maybe someone has to clean the bathroom with a toothbrush.
11. other

THE SEXUAL:
1. the light stuff: some handcuffs, some ropes. nothing too extreme. maybe one partner or the other is afraid; maybe it's just time to take a break from the trappings and have some love-making.
2. bondage: chains, or elaborately knotted ropes, or full-body bindings. maybe even suspension in midair.
3. caning/whipping/spanking: for punishment and for enjoyment of the pain.
4. shaving: you like them with smooth skin. no beards, no lovetrail, no hairy legs.
5. piercing/tattooing: a permanent mark of devotion.
6. sensory deprivation: gags, blindfolds, earplugs, to shut out the rest of the world.
7. as therapy: exploring a past trauma or fear.
8. first time: one partner or another is experiencing the kink lifestyle for the first time.
9. kink parties: for casual play. mind the rules; drugs and alcohol are rarely tolerated, and all play must be consensual. or else the host or hostess might get angry.
10. orgasm denial/forced orgasm: until they beg for it, or beg you to stop.
11. ageplay: perhaps someone wants to be treated like a child. maybe a little daddy or mommy kink to go along with it.
12. role-play: taking on roles. master-slave, teacher-student, dragon prince and slave-dancer -- your imagination's the limit.
13. genital torture: pain where you're the most sensitive.
14. electricity: to give things a spark.
15. medical fetish: sounding, stirrups, speculums -- oh, doctor.
16. fucking machines: it'll keep in the same rhythm, no matter how much you beg.
17. other

Please do NOT leave your comment blank! (Blank comments will not be deleted, but we highly recommend that you post something.) Either write a note on desired kinks/undesired kinks or create a scenario or fill out the textarea below:
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Comments

Clint Barton / MCU / OTA

[halfassed]

YES: Clint is a sub! He will be a service top at someone else's word, but for all other things, not gonna be giving the orders. I would love to explore some things of him discovering kinks he has, being new to BDSM but liking it. I like pretty much every single thing listed, sexual and non-sexual. Non-sexual bondage, feeding, negotiation and punishment sound especially good; sexual bondage, caning/whipping/spanking, shaving, sensory deprivation, as therapy, first time, orgasm denial/forced orgasm, and mild genital torture also sound good.

Ladies and gentlemen both welcome. Pegging is nice. IDK I like a lot of things.

MAYBE: Going to put maybe on him possibly being a fail dominant of fail. He'll be awkward, he won't know what to do, it should be hilarious. Also on maybe is everything on the list that I didn't put above.

NO: Non-con, torture/violence, bathroom play, death. Everything else is fair game!

one au!pepper coming (haha) right up. also everyday: 1.

[rescued_me]

[ Clint is laid out on the bed in only pants with his hands placed above his head with only her pointed order, a raised eyebrow, and his own obedience. She's in a tank top without a bra and underwear, long shaven legs newly lotioned. They're teammates, now; have been for some time. She's in Tony's place. She has taken his place.

She still feels that way sometimes.

But Clint is the closest thing she can get to Tony now, with Tony being dead, and as soon as she thinks that, she focuses more on the sculpted planes of Clint's stomach and the single grape she placed in his bellybutton. She treats him with an affection that blurs the line between him and Tony in her mind. She likes Clint, she really does, it's just...

Sitting down, legs crossed, Pepper--now with an alias of Rescue--looks up to Clint's face. Then, with a deep sigh, she crawls across and leans over his stomach, running her tongue up along his side to his navel, where she dips in her tongue to scoop the grape.

She thinks of strawberries. ]

Dean Winchester | Supernatural | slash or het is fine

[armed_dropout]

YES: Given Dean's personality and usual weirdness about using somebody I'd say he'd probably be the sub in this situation. I'd prefer canon mates, but whatev. I'm a mindfuck fan so there can be some questionable concent involved, be it manilpulation or flat out brain washingm or Dean could be all in.
MAYBE: Having said that, Dean can totally be dom, with a spell on either party or I can do a demon!Dean post hell.
NO: Bathroom play, medical play, death, extreme torture, genital torture, electricity, and shaving. Everything else is fine.

[hartandsouled]

(( What are the chances or situations that a vampire can turn Dean into his personal sub or blood slave? And are you familiar with the Buffy/Angel verses? ))

Gabriel | Supernatural

[casa_gabriel]

YES: bathing, massage, negotiation, humiliation/in public, punishment/discipline, the light stuff, bondage, spanking/paddling, orgasm denial/forced orgasm, role-play, fucking machines
NO:feeding, impact play with belts, piercing/tattooing, ageplay, genital torture, electricity, medical fetish,

Everything else is a maybe. Either role for slash, but would prefer to be the sub for het.

[featheryass]

[OOC: Interested in having a submissive Cas?]

Phil Coulson | Marvel Cinematic | Slash

[theshield_agent]

YES: bathing, massage, negotiation, humiliation/in public, punishment/discipline, the light stuff, bondage, spanking/paddling, orgasm denial/forced orgasm, role-play,
NO: feeding, impact play with belts, piercing/tattooing, ageplay, genital torture, electricity, medical fetish

Everything else is a maybe. Dom or sub is fine.

[halfassed]

[ Any thoughts on Clint/Coulson? ]

Jason Todd | DCnU | Canonmates Preferred

[ex_agoodsoldier468]

YES: Anything not on the No list is pretty much okay. With a woman, chances are Jason will be a Sub; with a man, nine times out of ten he will be a Dom.
MAYBE: Not that'd matter much for the sake of this roleplay, but even though I main DCnU, I know my way around pre-reboot; I can do roleplays set in his Lost Days setting and even Flashpoint as "Father Todd," where chances are he will be a Sub no matter what his partner's gender is (this will also have to involve lots of Noncon/Dubcon).

• Piercing/Tattooing (Depending on the area of the body)


• Electricity (Depending on strength & places being electrocuted)


• Medical Fetish (Nothing involving Sounding, Speculums, etc.)


• Fucking Machines (Nothing involving Anal)

NO: Animal Play; Feeding; Shaving; Genital Torture; Bathroom Play; Death; Mutiliation

[notlikeanyone]

(( OOC: So I play Tim from pre-boot but for the sake of a meme we can just fuzzy timelines up or whathaveyou, anyway - I spent a while thinking about how to make this work and I came up with a scenario where Jason and Tim are going to go undercover to do some recon on a BDSM club or some such, there's evidence it's being used as a front for dodgy business or to get a new drug on the market, maybe; and maybe Tim came to Jason with the info because lmao this is so not his scene but he doesn't want to give up involvement in the investigation so. And during the prep beforehand they could argue over who's dom and who's sub and Jason can be like "let me show you why I'm the dom here Timmy" AND THEN. STUFF. with whatever equip they have ready.

That might be pushing the completely consensual part of this meme of course and if you'd rather skip right to them just having that kind of relationship without the set up that would be fine too I JUST. LIKE BUILD UP AND STORY.

Anyway also I obviously spent a while thinking about this and being shy of tagging so if it's too late, or if it just doesn't interest you or anything, feel free to ignore this... giant tl;dr comment. /jazz hands out ))

fitzwilliam darcy | pride & prejudice [modern au]

[ex_querulous960]

YES: darcy would most likely be the dom (just think of what's-his-face from fifty shades of grey). yes to anything not in the no section.
MAYBE: though, for the right woman, his natural control-freak trait might loosen enough for him to be a sub.
NO: bathroom play, gore, violence/torture, feeding, non-con, shaving, animal play, ageplay. pm me in doubt.

cal trask • east of eden [modern au]

[mayest]

YES: cal would most definitely be the dom. as a natural born manipulator, expect more foreplay and the build-up rather than the actual act itself. yes to anything not in the no section.
MAYBE: nothing right now. pm me in doubt though.
NO: i'm... not sure if he'd be able to be the sub. seeing as he doesn't have any friends, only "associates", cal doesn't have enough trust for it. bathroom play, gore, violence/torture, feeding, non-con, shaving, animal play, ageplay.

Itachi Uchiha / Naruto / ota

[itachi_san]

Itachi's primarily a sub. As a player, I'm slowly getting more comfortable exploring these kinds of kinks, so bear with me as I expand my horizons and try new things.

YES: Pretty much anything that isn't in the no list. Especially the light and everyday prompts.
MAYBE: actual penetration. It really depends on the scenario and comfort level.
NO: humiliation, animal play. shaving, orgasm denial, genital torture or fucking machines.

Other general preferences are available on the journal.

Valko Morra || OC || m/m

[arcticacrimony]

YES: Val is a sub, much to his constant chagrin. I have a list of kinks and some info here. Basically everything in the everyday list is a yes but he'll need some convincing/coercion for talking/therapy and negotiation.

MAYBE: Piercing/tattooing, kink parties.

NO: Ageplay, role-play, genital torture, electricity, medical fetish, bathroom play. If you're not sure, ask. I'm actually open to a lot.

irene adler | bbc sherlock

[thedominatrix]

Irene's a gay pro-domme who will take clients of any gender and also tops with the ladies in her personal life. COME TO ME. I'm fine with assumed CR, from client to friend with benefits to long term lover. I also like talking things out ooc, so feel free to natter :>

YES: More or less everything not stated elsewhere, but I'm particularly interested in everyday things and also in BDSM in Irene's personal life as opposed to her professional exploits—I'm absolutely not averse to playing out scenes with clients, I've just had less chance to explore her personal life :>
MAYBE: Any particularly involved roleplay might need some talking out beforehand. I'm also not sure re: kink first timers, just because I'd like to explore a slightly different dynamic, but it's not a definite no by any means.
NO: Any lack of consent or enthusiasm, electricity, shaving/piercing/tattooing, blood play, bathroom play.

7

[oracle_knows]

It was weird. Barbara trusted her Mistress about as far as she could throw her when hogtied and blindfolded. (Which, being Barbara, might be half way across the room). But what she trusted completely was her Mistress's competence. And that Irene knew that Barbara was a match for her in both a battle of wills and one of wits, and had a photographic memory.

But Barbara was an adrenaline junkie and loved people who challenged her. Irene would happily provide the first, and definitely did the second. And in return, outside scenes Barbara challenged Irene just as much. Right now wasn't a particular scene - just Barbara having been dressed to make her near helpless before a discussion; not being the most physically adept person in the room was one thing that helped her relax. Ballet boots, a tight hobble dress, a cripplingly tight underbust corset, and bondage mittens.

"So." Barbara smiled. "Decided how you are going to redecorate? Other than the parts that should be a surprise to me of course?" She smirked. "And going to take the Govenor's wife as a client?" Keeping her out of electronic files was impossible - which was another reason she was here. Photographic memory, mastery of computers, and looking for a job to pay college bills. And apparently no jealousy at all.

Gilbert Nightray| Pandora Hearts| OTA

[frailraven]

Inclined to be submissive, but can be a dominant if discussed prior to playing out.

b>YES: The everyday, everything up to six.
MAYBE: First time, therapy, kink party, orgasm denial, role play, eletricity, fucking machines.
NO: Ageplay, genital torture, medical fetish, bathroom play, non con, torture.

Gabreel King (OC) - OTA

[malecompanion]

Gabreel will happily be someone's sub, he's fine being a top, but not that great at being a Dom, if that makes any sense. He does have occasional problems with PTSD, but as I the mun haven't had any real experience myself, he mostly has a handle on it.

Anything not on the no list is negotiable, and I love talking things out with my RP partners.

NO:
Everyday:
Nonsexual bondage
Humiliation
Animal play
Punishment/Discipline is iffy - will need to be discussed first

Sexual:
Caning/whipping/spanking is iffy - will need to be discussed first
As therapy
Parties
Ageplay
Genital Torture
Medical fetish

Zepar (Fallen angel) | OTA

[hurtyourealgood]

Okay, so here's the thing with Zepar: basically everything is negotiable. Generally he's a dom, but he will sub for the right lady (or sometimes the right guy).

He's been around for a long time, long enough to learn that what he likes best is getting his partner off, catering to them however they need it.

That said: OOC discussion first (and during) is the best thing.

[arcticacrimony]

[OOC: Hi there. Would you be interested in a sub werewolf OC?]

Kariya Masaki | Inazuma Eleven GO! | ota

[netting_nettles]

[Nothing explicitly sexual, please, so things are best kept to the "Everyday" set of prompts. Anything from those is probably fine.

Dom!Kariya and sub!Kariya are both possible, though the latter is more likely.]

[notthepandahero]

((Is 9 alright with you? It's the one I rolled, so I'm making sure first --))

Clint 'Hawkeye' Barton - MCU - OTA

[ihazanest]

Clint is a sub, mouthy, recalcitrant, but definitely a sub. Gender is less important than attitude. I will happily play him off of either men or women.

NO:
Everyday: 7-9 (10 is okay, but will need to be discussed)
Sexual: 3, 7, 9, 11, 13, 15.

Anything not listed here is good, but communication is key.

Everyday - 10

[littlspecificty]

Standing in the doorway of their bathroom, Arthur leaned a shoulder against the doorframe, watching Clint begin with his task (aka punishment for mouthing off once again).

He was to clean the bathroom (the floor, tub and sink) and a toothbrush while in his just his boxers and not touching himself as he keeps a vibrating anal plug in him throughout the whole cleaning.

Arthur has the remote to it in his hand, "Make sure to get between the tiles."

Erik Lensherr (X-Men First Class) - OTA

[serene_rage]

Erik is... a little tricky. He's definitely a dom, but thanks to what he went through with Shaw, he'll need a sub with some experience. Someone who will be able to take care of him just as much as he takes care of them.

NO:
everyday: 5, 7-9
sexual: 6-9, 11, 13, 15

Anything not expressly listed on the 'no' is probably fine, but discussion before and during is always good.

Everyday - 2

[littlspecificty]

[ ooc : partially inspired by this nsfw gif - let me know if anything needs to be changed. ]

These were probably Arthur's favorite kind of moments after one of their sessions: the times when he got to take care of Erik, switching from his role as the sub to one as the dom. In most cases, it not only consisted of him taking care of Erik but also assuring him what they had done was exactly what he wanted (and often times it was if not more than he could have expected).

The most recent session had been Arthur's first experience with humiliation, Erik "forcefully" fucking him against one of the windows in their apartment, completely naked and his front completely exposed. He could still feel the press of the glass against one of his cheeks and chest. There had been a point where Arthur had nearly called out their safe-word, feeling too overwhelmed by what he was going through and the things Erik was saying to him as he fucked him against that window and held him there to "take it" (just as Arthur had requested when his dom asked him what he needed). But right as he thought he couldn't take anymore, he came right there on the glass, tears feeling cold against his burning cheeks.

Arthur had needed to experience such a thing just once and he hadn't ever trusted anyone else with doing it to him before Erik (he had made sure to repeat that to his dom leading up to it). It had been just as overwhelming and incredible as he had thought it would be and then some.

Now, after it, he was sitting on the back of the tub against the tiled wall, Erik leaning back between his legs as Arthur washed his hair and planned to bathe the sweat and come off of his lover, as well. He loved washing Erik. Not just because he loved the other man's body but because the constant contact and touching, gentle and soothing, not hesitant or forced, was just as good as his words of assurance to Erik that he was happy, that he was satisfied with what they had just done.

Sharon Baskerville ☮Pandora Hearts AUt☮ OTA (Sub for canonmates only)

[deceptive_appearance]

Sharon is a dom, generally although she might be convinced to sub if she trusts the person.

NO: bathroom play, death, vore. Ask about other things?

Darren Laurent | OC

[smokeandbruises]

YES: Anything No really Anything not on the no list.
NO: M-Preg/Feminisation/Watersports/Bathroom things beyond the shower/tub

Darren is nearly always a dom, and not a tame one. If you have not RPd with me before, make sure to make your own undesired kinks and comfort level known before you do. Threads with this character can get intense.

[bloodandbreakfast]

So this was their third date, although Seth figured most people might put it down as their first. Not that normal really had any kind of place in their relationship so far. What made it feel more like a third date than a first was how well he already knew Darren. What made it feel more like a first was how very nervous he'd been.

He'd gotten up at dawn, because he just couldn't sleep anymore, and then after he'd gone to the market, he'd managed to pass out again until four thirty, which didn't leave him with nearly enough time, obviously.

The apartment was nice. Seth owned it and any running bills were paid by an older woman for motives that weren't entirely clear. He didn't care, it had gotten him a kitchen with everything he wanted, plus a very nice bedroom, living room, bathroom and a spare room that could come in quite handy at times.

Still, the most important part was the kitchen. That sort of priority led to him barely managing to shower and put on some clothes before Darren came, but at least he managed to put a nice dinner together. Steak, just like Darren had requested, but of course that simple order had led to Seth possibly going slightly overboard with side dishes, appetizer and dessert. But Darren seemed happy enough, even more so after Seth acted on impulse and gave him an after-dinner blowjob.

While during that action, Darren had looked utterly shameless, now he felt almost sheepish, laying back on the floor and looking up at Darren.

"Do you want to be my boyfriend?"

So he might not have done this a lot. At least not for real.

Loki Laufeyson ∞ MCU ∞ M/M preferred except Castmates

[iamagod]

YES: Loki likes mind games and power plays.

If he is the master, he is possessive and controlling, and he will do twisted things to make sure his pets are thoroughly broken or stay that way. It is a good idea to tell me limits ahead of time otherwise all things on the list, including extreme scenarios may be fair game. Punishments, forced submission, bondage, collaring, humiliation, mindfuckery.

Loki sub will be either pre-Thor or post Avengers. Scenario will need to be discussed. For that I prefer humiliation, psychological games, pet training, bondage - heavy or light, forced/denied orgasm and extreme sex. Non-con is okay.

MAYBE: Anything below, we can talk.

NO: Death, and bathroom stuff stays in bathroom. Okay with mentions and glossing over it though.

Couldn't resist........

[retrieverchef]

[Post-Eliot's contract, perhaps?]

Nana Chigusa | Nana to Kaoru

[ropedrunk]

nepeta leijon | homestuck | aged up

[moirailcompass]

YES: all the nonsexual options.
MAYBE: Shoot me something on an OOC note and we can talk!
NO: no piercing (tattoo is ok), no torture, no medical kinks or electricity. as for things no on the list i'd like to avoid--scat, watersports, guro (light bloodplay is fine).

1-9! :] (closed)

[moirailcompass]

[Nepeta couldn't say exactly how or when her moirallegiance with Equius had become more red...or were they still strictly in the pale zone? It was hard to say, really, and another part of her wondered if it really need to be questioned. Whatever the cause might be, she surprised herself with how well she had taken to their new and 'unique' relationship. It certainly helped that with his STRENGTH she never need fear hurting Equius too much, and she certainly knew him well enough to understand what he truly liked, regardless of what any complaints his pride made him voice.

Which was why Nepeta had gone out to abjure a certain little trinket with the help of the Alchemiter. It had taken her quite a number of tries to get ahold of this little thing, but it was going to be well worth it, even if only due to the expression on Equius' face.]

Oh Eqquiiuusssss.

[She peeked into his respiteblock, holding the object behind her]

Nora Gainesborough || True Blood

[mendacium]

Which role Nora plays in this scenario really depends on her relationship to the person. If she's subbing to someone, she pretty much has to trust them to some degree; some working out of details is good, but not necessary, so long as it's plausible. Otherwise, and also if the other party wants it, she is more than happy to be the domme. Oh, and very OTA.

YES: everyday 2-7 and 10 and sexual 1-3, 6-8, 10
MAYBE: everyday 1, 8 and sexual 11, 12
NO: anything not listed above. Her permissions post is here.

Kaylee Frye || Firefly

[shiniest]

Probably the sub, but open to being the dom as well. And OTA.

YES: everyday 1-7, sexual 1, 2, 6, 7, 10, 12
MAYBE: everyday 10, sexual 9, 11
NO: everything not listed, dub/non-con; her permissions list is here.

Daenerys Targaryen || Game of Thrones

[ungentle]

Dany can take either role, but if subbing, she would probably need a careful and affectionate dom; she's also probably more likely to sub with a woman, though nothing rolewise is out of the question.

YES: everyday 2-7, sexual 1, 2, 6-8
MAYBE: everyday 1, 10, sexual 10-12
NO: everything not listed, dub/non-con. Her full permissions list is here.

Sirius Black | Harry Potter Marauders Era

[blackdogstar]

YES: Bondage and service-related things are great, heavier stuff and sexual play is fine too. I definitely feel he's more of a service top or a sub, but if you have a character you think he'd dom to I'll go for it. I'm good with most things but in doubt ask.
MAYBE: Sirius domming, ageplay/incest play
NO: not a big fan of shaving, genital torture, or tattooing