So...alright, this is going to sound weird, but bear with me.

I'm sure we've all either been or heard of that villain, the one who gets redeemed by love, just wanted the attention of a good man and finally got it, whatever. We all know the story, I'm not going to justify it, let's just say it happened to me.

The thing is, my new husband and former antagonist...he really liked the fighting. Like, really liked it. I'm not going to say I don't, either, even if I'm Glenda Goodwitch or whatever now. The thing is, our relationship still involves a lot of yelling and arguing and sometimes physical fighting, entirely consensual and enjoyed, but...how do I know if I'm taking it too far? I'm bad at catching myself and worried about crossing the line from rough play and banter into Actual Villainy again, and it's got me constantly anxious. How does one go about setting limits on oneself when one's entirely heroic partner likes things rough and loud?