the aftercare meme

[alkali]

"Aftercare is the process of attending to one another after intense feelings of a physical or psychological nature, usually relating to sexual and/or BDSM activities.

Some sexual experiences can be exhausting, and drain the participants of mental, emotional or physical energy. As a result, one or all participants may require emotional support, comfort, reassurance, and/or physical tenderness."

HOW TO PLAY:

1. comment with your characters
2. include preferences
3. roll and respond to others!

You can start in the beginning or middle of the experience/scene, but aftercare should be included in the scenario at some point. Although the meme is BDSM-based, other experiences that take some kind of heavy psychological/physical toll work, too.

WARNING: this meme includes sexual scenarios that may be triggering for some people. Please be aware of other people's preferences, and ask if you're unsure!

1. Hug it out. After a particularly rough tumble, sometimes the first thing you need is a good cuddle. Remind your significant other that you're there in the most simple yet sincere way.

2. Talk about it. Are there things you want to tell your lover about what just happened? Were you uncomfortable about one part of it, or maybe you want to try and go further next time? Or maybe you want to resume to normal and just talk about the weather. Whatever sets you most at ease.

3. First aid. It can be a whole lot of fun to be physically stimulated while having sex, but once its done, those red and blue marks might be a literal pain to deal with day-to-day. Rub some soothing creme onto those red welts, apply bandages or gauze for more severe wounds, and take care of your lover in any other way that might be necessary.

4. Massage. Work out those tight and tender muscles that got all wound up during intercourse. Besides, no one knows your lover's body like you do, so you should do your best to make them feel good and relaxed.

5. Clean up. Another great way to relax is to let water run over your sore skin. Whether in a shower or a bath (maybe you decided to up the romance and put candles all over the bathroom to make the aftercare even more intimate), it's a great way to come down from a sexual high together.

6. Praise. Some experiences can be tough mentally as well as physically. If you just went through a punishment scene together, it's important to let your lover know how proud you are of them, and that all is forgiven. Make it clear in no uncertain terms that once the sex is over, you still love them.

7. Take Care. Make them their favorite tea. Turn on their favorite song, or read to them from their favorite book. If they hadn't gotten their release during sex, take care of them physically, as well. You know what makes them feel better, so do it.

8. Together. Sometimes, all a person needs is to not be alone for a while after such intense sexual encounters. Watch some feel-good TV, eat some junk food together, or just stay under the sheets with your significant other for the rest of the night.

9. Other. Mix and match, or do something else you've been wanting to try.

Comments

silver ( pokemon | ota. )

[rocketto]

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kokonose haruka ( kagerou project | ota. )

[artbooks]

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[senkounomaihime]

[ would a Takane be okay? ]

Vaiz | Aoi Sekai no Chuushin de | m/m

[dragonbite]

Mizuki | DRAMAtical Murder | m/m

[blacked_out]

[All prompts are good, as is starting at any point in the act itself. No toilet play (watersports/wetting can be discussed), vore, guro, death, weight play, food play, or needleplay. Please forgive the limited icons!]

Jemma Simmons | Agents of SHIELD

[biochemistry]

[ota with strong f/f preference; baby girl is very much the sub and has a tendency to need to be eased out of subspace very gently (she also has a very strong praise kink so throwing that in with anything else would be A+)]

Ros | GOT (modern)

[mishandled]

[ota; a switch who's moderately more likely to be domming if she's working (call girl situations etc.) and moderately more likely to be subbing if she's just seeking pleasure but who is very insistent on this either way]

Bella Swan || Twilight

[mortalitem]

[OOC: Sub role preferred, but that doesn't mean I'm not open to situations where she's the one doing the aftercare for a drained dominant.]

Fenrir || Norse Mythology

[fame_wolf]

[OOC: Sub role preferred because he's got a lot of energy to work out and while he might fight a bit at first, he needs a strong but soothing hand to keep him in check. Subdrop for Fenrir means a ridic cuddly, clingy wolf. Open to situations where he's the one doing the aftercare for a drained dominant.]

[tearmeanewone]

[OOC: You cool with a female dom? 83]

Castiel || Supernatural || m/m

[featheryass]

[OOC: Either role.]

Tim Drake | 63!DC | ota

[thegoshdarn]

[probably more like to be a Dom, but I could see her benefiting a lot from subbing sometimes so.]

Roy Mustang | Fullmetal Alchemist | ota

[ifwishesweremustangs]

[Giving or receiving.]

Hiyoko Saionji | Dangan Ronpa | F/F

[stomptheyard]

[ Also available at saioldy if that's more your jam. Open to either role, since playing dominant and caring Saionji would be awful and fun. ]

roland deschain / the dark tower / ota

[tet]

3

[magician_king]

[Quentin isn't expecting a whole lot of tenderness in the aftermath. Magicians tell stories about gunslingers, and none of those involve a lot of tenderness, but he'd known what he was getting into, and isn't at all sorry to come out a little black, a little blue, and with a bitemark or two.

He doesn't ask for the aftercare, just lies on his aching back in the tangled sheets, and wonders why he can't seem to shake these shivers.]

Dorian Pavus | Dragon Age | OTA

[thevint]

[[ooc: i'm fine with cross-canon of course]]

[lavellanmage]

[[ooc: wasn't sure if Inquisitors were ok? Also was Dorian administering or receiving?]]

campanella frühling ✘ dogs: b&c ✘ ota

[allbite]

7!

[rightfully]

[ The hook hanging from suspended from a rafter in the ceiling had been new, and a surprise. Pulled taut above the bed, her wrists bound together with silk rope, Lucina had been fucked from stem to stem. The picture she had made had pleased Frühling - the subtle curve of her breasts had become more pronounced with every arch of her back and jerk of her hips; thin pink welts had risen on her skin as their loveplay grew more and more intense, lining the shadows in the hidden parts of her body.

She hadn't given the safeword - no, Frühling had not won that from her yet in any of their evenings spent together - but afterwards, Lucina was shuddering and pale, needing to be eased down gently onto the bed. Wrapped now in Frühling's silk sheets, modesty thus preserved, and chin pillowed demurely into a euro, she peers up at Frühling.

Lucina's wrists bare the visible brunt of the night, rope burns having rubbed the skin raw and bruised, near bloody. ]

Maybe we should order in some dinner.

[ Like always, her voice is husky and docile in the aftermath. ]

Bruce Banner: MCU: OTA

[zen_en_vert]

[ukan]

First comes hot chocolate, brewed from cream and cocoa powder and spices. It takes more time, but Lark has Bruce sit beside him on a stool while he steams the milk. He kisses his forehead, his nose, and one of the no-longer-bleeding wounds every so often.

"Tell me how spicy you want yours, boy." A gentle order; he likes to keep Bruce in a safe, very kept headspace as long as he can, so he tends to order instead of request.

Quentin Coldwater: The Magicians: OTA

[magician_king]

[3times10]

"Darling," a low sound, groan, exhaustion. "Tell me again, what awful thing would happen if you conjured us up a steak dinner out of thin air."

Ricki Tarr: Tinker Tailor Soldier Spy: OTA

[rickitikitarr]

3/7/8/???

[formerself]

Afterwards he doesn't lie down on the bed so much as he just pools there, a puddle of aching bones and run-tired muscles and discoloured skin. Raw nerve endings like fraying, sparking live wires, only somewhat insulated by endorphins and adrenaline.

He recognises now that when he said he could get the bedroom soundproofed in case a neighbour got nervous and called the filth? He'd been joking, but Ricki's answering thoughtful murmur had been serious, and it's just as well he went ahead and got that done just so he could joke that he had.

His throat is hoarse from screaming - cursing, yelling, howling in the way that anyone would when they're being slowly and comprehensively drawn apart at the seams. It's probably the most pain he's ever been in that didn't involve hospitalisation. Pain like that, ridiculous in its intensity but controlled with a brake he could have pressed at any time - it's new. Definitely new.

He spiders a hand out across the sheets, looking for Ricki with his eyes closed, not trusting his voice to speak.

Rose Tyler | Doctor Who| ota

[missrosetyler]

Shuichi Shindou | Gravitation | open to all Yukis

[bumpingugliesatoz]

[definitely the sub]

hi bb <3 how about 4 :3

[heartchart]

[It's been an intense night, and Eiri is nothing if not satisfied.

In the deepest, most secret part of his mind, he has to admit that rough sex is one of his favorite things to do. He's never been in a situation where it was warranted-his old one night stands didn't exactly offer the opportunity, unless he wanted to find some crazy, kinky chick, and he hadn't wanted to. But now, being in an actual relationship...it was surprising, the kinds of things he was able to try. And the funny part was, it felt safe. It felt right. Even trying things like bizarre roleplaying fantasies and BDSM and rough, almost abusive sex felt normal. Like tonight, Eiri had been able to pull out all the stops and really go all out.

It had felt good, not feeling like he had to hold back at all, and having Shuichi still look him in the eye afterward, well, that was a nice thing, too. It was almost alien, knowing that Shuichi could see all of the dark and the savage things inside of him, and still be able to look at him with nothing but love.

The least he can do now, he figures, is offer a little aftercare. Shuichi definitely deserves it, for putting up with all of his experimentation and his kinks and his almost insatiable needs. Pouring a little more oil onto his hands, he lowers them back to Shuichi's body. Later, he'll focus on more conventional areas to massage, like his back and his shoulders. But at the moment, he's tenderly rubbing the smaller man's thighs, his fingers kneading gently with silent gratitude for this night. After all the stress he's endured this week, he needed it.]

How're you doing?

[He feels obligated to at least check, to make sure they're all good and that that last round of intense, most likely painful sex didn't chase his lover away. Eiri has always enjoyed the pain, but he's not sure how much this holds true for the man he's massaging.]

closed;

[theoryandcalculation]

[Rei collapses back on his pillow, still panting, sweaty and tired and spent. When he and Rin went hard, they went really hard, and repetition has only increased their intensity. Rei's nerves are still on fire, mostly from the sex, but also from all the bites peppered on his body.

And oh, are there a lot of them. He cranes his neck to look, a little shocked to see blood smeared on his sheets. Is he bleeding from somewhere? That must be him.

He can't say he dislikes it at all, though, and in fact he smiles around his still heavy breathing, lifting up one arm and reaching to trace the marks there with his other hand.]

You were really hungry tonight... It really has been awhile since we got a chance to do this, hasn't it?

[And there was once a time when having Rin's teeth sink into him to the point of breaking skin would terrify him, but now he craves it, in a way he doesn't think he could ever explain. Though that doesn't stop it from stinging now, in the aftermath, as his body reminds him that bleeding and scarring isn't exactly normal.

He winces just slightly and lets his arms come to rest on his torso.]

[rinsecure]

[Propped on his elbow and hand, Rin lies beside his boyfriend, all heavy breathing and panting, watching and reveling in the effects of the afterglow. It always takes him a while to come down from that high, to feel grounded again; Rei is something like an addiction to him, and when they have the chance to fully indulge like this, it's intoxicating, enough to blur his senses-- taste, smell, touch, it's all them.

So it takes him a little while, but when Rei makes his comment, he does come down from his trance and takes notice of his surroundings, the bloodied smears on the sheets and Rei's skin alike. It's true, they're well past the stage where this would be a concern, have long since established just how much Rei actually enjoys his teeth and what they can do, but Rin can't help feeling a little bad, even now, the big softy that he is.]

I guess I got a little carried away, huh? [He offers a small smile, if that's all he'll give in the way of an apology-- mostly because he knows Rei would dismiss it right away. There's no point in feeling regret over something they both had fun with, right?

Still, he leans in closer, nuzzles the side of Rei's face and the crook of his neck, then moves back up, lips on his boyfriend's. Pampering, gentle, and very much unlike the rougher behavior he had acted out on impulse earlier.]

Hey. Let me take care of you now, okay?

natasha romanoff / mcu

[debts]

[strategia]

[ reporting for duty, pick me a number + scenario and i'll craft you a starter! ]

Edward Elric | Fullmetal Alchemist | MM

[geniusinminiature]

gisele / f&tf franchise

[mossad]

[ top for sure. ]

Junko Enoshima - Dangan Ronpa - F/F

[ironicallyawfulname]

[ Why would you do this to yourself. ]