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The BDSM Lifestyle Meme

BDSM isn't all about the sex. Sure, handcuffs, whips and chains, toys, power and control-play can be fun, but sometimes it's about the other stuff too. The little stuff. The ways you and your partner give yourselves to each other every day.

So this is a meme to play out safe, sane, consensual and maybe even non-sexual BDSM.

If you want more information, check out:
          The Ten Golden Rules of BDSM Negotiation
          Sexuality.Org's BDSM Index
          The Keys to A Relationship
          Extreme Restraints

Be warned: Threads and prompts below may contain triggers, and will contain sexual content.

THE EVERYDAY:

feeding: using him as a plate? having her kneel and accept hand-feeding? maybe someone's been very good and should have a tasty reward.
bathing: after all, you have to take care of your partner. it's nice to have someone to get lotion in those hard-to-reach places.
talking/therapy: how are you going to work out this relationship? what obstacles do you have to overcome?
massage: some intimate relaxation.
dates: it's good to go out every once in a while.
negotiation: to work out what kinks are and are not okay.
nonsexual bondage: gags, bridles, chastity belts. some people just like the security of bondage in everyday life.
humiliation/in public: take your pet out to show her off; bend him over a bench and spank him for bad behavior.
animal play: pony play, pet play.
punishment/discipline: someone's been bad. maybe it's time for a time-out. or maybe someone has to clean the bathroom with a toothbrush.
other

THE SEXUAL:

the light stuff: some handcuffs, some ropes. nothing too extreme. maybe one partner or the other is afraid; maybe it's just time to take a break from the trappings and have some love-making.
bondage: chains, or elaborately knotted ropes, or full-body bindings. maybe even suspension in midair.
caning/whipping/spanking: for punishment and for enjoyment of the pain.
shaving: you like them with smooth skin. no beards, no lovetrail, no hairy legs.
piercing/tattooing: a permanent mark of devotion.
sensory deprivation: gags, blindfolds, earplugs, to shut out the rest of the world.
as therapy: exploring a past trauma or fear.
first time: one partner or another is experiencing the kink lifestyle for the first time.
kink parties: for casual play. mind the rules; drugs and alcohol are rarely tolerated, and all play must be consensual. or else the host or hostess might get angry.
orgasm denial/forced orgasm: until they beg for it, or beg you to stop.
ageplay: perhaps someone wants to be treated like a child. maybe a little daddy or mommy kink to go along with it.
role-play: taking on roles. master-slave, teacher-student, dragon prince and slave-dancer -- your imagination's the limit.
genital torture: pain where you're the most sensitive.
electricity: to give things a spark.
medical fetish: sounding, stirrups, speculums -- oh, doctor.
fucking machines: it'll keep in the same rhythm, no matter how much you beg.
other

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"Do I need to gag you," Matt asks, "someone is being overly chatty tonight?"

"No, but normally you enjoy my cheek." He teases a little but goes quiet after that, just focusing on his breathing.

"Normally I do," Matt says, "but tonight is about testing limits and that means how quiet can you be." Matt pads around Wesley again stroking a shoulder her and down his back the next moment.

"Alright." Wesley says leaning into the touch slightly, "But even when it's not cheek... I thought you liked that I speak up, because of you sight..." he asks honestly licking his lips a little, there is no more cheek in his voice, just curiosity.

He hangs his head a little, eyes falling closed as he wait's for Matt's next move, his cock already almost fully hard, and they haven't even really started yet.

Matt kneels and starts pressing kisses to Wesley's back wherever he's already touched. "I don't need to hear your voice to know where you are. Everyone in the world has a heartbeat that is theirs and theirs alone. Yours for example matches the tick of the expensive wrist watch you wear. No matter where I am I always hear it."

James makes a small amused sound at how Matt describes the sound of his heart beat, and his watch.

His breathing evens out further at the feel of Matt's lips on his skin leaning into the touches slightly and kisses slightly.

"So I'm not to speak at all?" He asks as he relaxes further, "Just for final clarification." He murmurs.

Matt nodded and leaned forward to bite Wesley's shoulder. "Not one word. Moans and gasps are fine but no distinct words or you will be punished. Do you understand? Nod yes or no."

James nods in the affirmative letting out a slow breath, it catching slightly when he feels Matt's teeth on his shoulder.

"That's my good boy," Matt says taking another gentle bite out of Wesley's other shoulder and then he kisses where his teeth just where. "I adore how good you always are for me."

Wesley is still on the fence about the good boy thing, well on the fence about the fact that he likes it... and the praise strikes him as odd from time to time.

But it settles something warm in him as he kneels for Matt, breath hitching at the nips and bites, his cock hard and heavy between his legs.

Matt smiles a secret smile and he gets up for a moment and returns with a tray. He picks something up and slides the ice cube along the love bites on Wesley's back. "Nod if this is too cold for you and I'll stop."

"Alright..." James says, he knows he's not suppose to speak, but if he nods, Matt will stop. He goes silent again breath hitching at the coldness against the heat of the bite marks. The goose flesh rising in the ice cubes wake, he keeps his head bowed focusing on his breathing and the feeling of the ice.

Matt slaps Wesley's shoulder hard so that his submissive knows his dom heard the breaking of the rules. "Don't break the rules again or the scene is over." he hisses sounding a bit harsh. ""

Wesley grunt and bites his lower lip, and shakes his head a little, as the after shocks of pain and pleasure go straight to his cock. He'd been asked a question he figured he was suppose to answer, it seemed Matt was in a mood tonight.

But that could end up working out for both of them.

The Kitchen had been rough on Matt tonight and he needed this scene, needed the ability to control it. He kisses the area he'd just slapped and then wrapped his hand around Wesley's cock and squeezes. "Let's up the ante a bit," he purrs.

Wesley nods and his hips jerk a little as Matt squeezes his cock, already hard and leaking for the man.

But he'd never been one for cock and ball torture so he hopes that's not where this is headed. They've never had to tap out with each other yet.

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