don't forget the aftercare.

[fetishes]

"Aftercare is the process of attending to one
another after intense feelings of a physical or
psychological nature, usually relating to sexual
and/or BDSM activities.

Some sexual experiences can be exhausting,
and drain the participants of mental, emotional
or physical energy. As a result, one or all
participants may require emotional support,
comfort, reassurance, and/or physical tenderness."

HOW TO PLAY:

oo1. comment with your characters
oo2. include preferences 
oo3. roll and respond to others!

You can start in the beginning or middle of the sexual encounter/scene, but aftercare should be included in the scenario at some point

WARNING: this meme includes sexual scenarios that may be triggering for some people. Please be aware of other people's preferences, and ask if you're unsure!

1. Hug it out After a particularly rough tumble, sometimes the first thing you need is a good cuddle. Remind your significant other that you're there in the most simple yet sincere way.

2. Talk about it Are there things you want to tell your lover about what just happened? Were you uncomfortable about one part of it, or maybe you want to try and go further next time? Or maybe you want to resume to normal and just talk about the weather. Whatever sets you most at ease.

3. First aid It can be a whole lot of fun to be physically stimulated while having sex, but once its done, those red and blue marks might be a literal pain to deal with day-to-day. Rub some soothing creme onto those red welts, apply bandages or gauze for more severe wounds, and take care of your lover in any other way that might be necessary.

4. Massage Work out those tight and tender muscles that got all wound up during intercourse. Besides, no one knows your lover's body like you do, so you should do your best to make them feel good and relaxed.

5. Clean up Another great way to relax is to let water run over your sore skin. Whether in a shower or a bath (maybe you decided to up the romance and put candles all over the bathroom to make the aftercare even more intimate), it's a great way to come down from a sexual high together. 

6. Praise Some experiences can be tough mentally as well as physically. If you just went through a punishment scene together, it's important to let your lover know how proud you are of them, and that all is forgiven. Make it clear in no uncertain terms that once the sex is over, you still love them.

7. Take Care Make them their favorite tea. Turn on their favorite song, or read to them from their favorite book. If they hadn't gotten their release during sex, take care of them physically, as well. You know what makes them feel better, so do it.

8. Together Sometimes, all a person needs is to not be alone for a while after such intense sexual encounters. Watch some feel-good TV, eat some junk food together, or just stay under the sheets with your significant other for the rest of the night. 

9. Other Mix and match, or do something else you've been wanting to try.

Comments

Noh-Varr ( Marvel 616 ) OTA

[forceandfire]

Cole Anderson | Original Character | OTA

[ex_livesinthemoment670]

Cole would probably be the one giving aftercare

Jim Kirk | Star Trek AOS | M/M

[medbaysmostwanted]

Roy Mustang | FMA: Brotherhood|OTA

[ifwishesweremustangs]

Dean Winchester | Supernatural | OTA

[huntsdemons]

Deanna Winchester | Rule 63 Supernatural | OTA

[chevy_n_pie]

Orihime Inoue | Bleach | F/M

[leekspins]

Bryn Fletcher | Original Character | OTA

[anchorpoint]

[Bryn is from an action-adventure genre set generations after an apocalypse. He's an adventurer, archer, and artifact-gatherer who is both warm/flirtatious and ruthless. More info can be found here.

He's much more likely to be giving aftercare than needing it. Open to M/F or M/M or anything in between. I can play him at 19 or 29, just let me know your preference!]

Peony Upala Malkuth IX | Tales of the Abyss | OTA

[deathscore]

let's just "all of the above" for the number thing

[foney]

[This is strange.

Everything hurts, he's exhausted, wrung out, eyes wet and chest heaving, heart beating incredibly hard, lips parted as he gasps for breath, still bound where Peony put him on the bed. His pale skin is criss-crossed with red and purple lash marks, he's uncertain if he's bleeding, and he can't think.

That is, perhaps, the most frightening part. He can't think. He's used to not feeling, used to being withdrawn and cold, but not thinking is something he can barely abide. It comes to him slowly, that he's afraid, his most valued standards turned on their ear, upside down and inverted. Weakly - and weakness is something he loathes, something he can barely stand - he pulls at his hands, his wrists, as if to pull free.]

Your Majesty?

Tim Wayne / Red Robin | DC Comics | m/m

[redripoff]

[in a receiving mood, and WAY open to all options but especially fond of cocktails including 3]

Balthazar | Supernatural | m/m or m/f

[tryingitall]

[Specifically interested in a scene where the top needs aftercare. Doesn't matter to me whether Balthazar has just been the top or the other person has, but some OOC communication to establish what just happened will be necessary.

Slow tagger, but I backtag.]

[inlovewithhumanity]

[ooc: i want this. let's discuss. :3]

Graham Humbert | Once Upon A Time

[berefts]

[toldinthebook]

( One thing that Emma had learned about Graham was his favourite drink. It was one of the first things that she'd learned - not something that he'd told her but something she'd picked up on her own. It had been the thing that had made Emma realise that she cared. First as friends, and then as something more. That had scared her at first but somehow Graham had made it seem natural. Okay.

They were taking things slow, although if you spoke to Mary Margaret it was glacial. Or not even a thing. For Emma it was a big thing - a big scary thing that hadn't happened in a long time.

She's slipped off to the kitchen, using the couple of minutes whilst the water boiled to breathe - to just have a moment. It wasn't long, Emma making the drink almost on autopilot now, but it was just enough. To smile again, to feel calm about the whole thing )

Hey.

( She held the mug out to him before sitting herself next to him, arm touching his. Getting closer - emotionally, and physically... it was nice. It was nice knowing that she could actually do that, and it felt good. Right. Graham was different from others that she'd known - been with. She felt safer here, and surprisingly comfortable )

Marie Kreutz l The Bourne Series l OTA

[reluctantaccessory]

(Most likely the one giving care, but it would be nice to have her receiving it.)

Emma Swan | Once Upon A Time

[leatherjackets]

[handlesswonder]

[Who should start the flood, Emma or Hook?]

belle french | once

[vivalabelle]

Lapis Fathalla | OC | OTA

[oneirism]

[More likely to be on the receiving end - she tends to be stubborn and willful but can be very emotional and she just sucks at showing it.

I'm open to pretty much any prompt!]

Sam Wilson | MCU | ota

[airfoil]

[Giving. He's attentive and leans toward praise during and after play.

Though he is a switch so I'm totally down with any sort of thread with him receiving.]

[biochemistry]

[would this be workable? Jemma has a fairly large praise kink, so.]

Freya Mikaelson || The Originals || F/M

[mikaelson_witch]

Anna Valerious + Van Helsing + F/M

[thegypsyprincess]

ajay ghale || far cry 4

[ajayya]

( no pajay please, otherwise ota! )

IDK ALL OF THE ABOVE starting with 2

[fuckless]

Well. That sure just happened. It definitely wasn't bad. In fact, it was kind of nice all things considered. When it came to his experiences on Rook Island there wasn't a whole lot of stuff that could be categorized as nice. So despite Jason's admitted inexperience in the field of sex with dudes, it was okay. Better than okay.

But goddamn if parts of it didn't hurt like a total bitch. Guess it's a good thing he's grown accustomed to a little pain here and there.

Jason's sitting up on the mattress now (undoubtedly located in some shady beat up shack that looks like it's on the verge of collapse). He glances over at Ajay, bleary eyed because yes, there were probably drugs and/or alcohol involved here.

"Okay so on a scale to breaking your toe to shark bite, what would you say that was?" What a conversation starter.

wanda | age of ultron

[trance]

[barbs]

[ you in? ]

Max Rockatansky ☣ Mad Max: Fury Road ☣ OTA

[not_a_damn_blood_bag]

Malia Tate ☪ Teen Wolf ☪ OTA

[ran_from_cougars]

Beatrice | Much Ado About Nothing

[withgrieving]

[modern au]

Jemma Simmons | Agents of SHIELD

[biochemistry]

[ota with f/f preference; sub, kinks in journal]