Relationship help

[meme_maid]

the RELATIONSHIP ADVICE meme RULES ○ In the subject line, pithily summarize any issues your character may have in their relationship/with their canon love interest/ship partner/love life. Surely there's some trouble in paradise? ○ Others will give advice on how to be luckier in love, whether to pursue someone or not...or maybe, just maybe, if it's time to call it quits with someone (DTMFA).

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[ohios]

How successful was it if it is over?

[juniorvarsitycap]

It was good for a long time.

[ohios]

Are you going to tell me what happened?

[ she's turning this around on him. ]

[juniorvarsitycap]

No. Do you want a relationship?

[ohios]

[ damn ]

No, I love to come home to empty apartment after killing many people and eat an entire box of macaroni from the pot.

[juniorvarsitycap]

I get coming home to an empty place. It sucks. But do you actually want to settle down?

[ohios]

[ she wrestles with the fact that she does not want to have this conversation, particularly not with him, but also with the difficulty of articulating it.

finally-- ]

You had a normal life before you became this ... Great Value Captain America, yes?

[juniorvarsitycap]

[He's trying here.]

Sort of. I was in the military.

[ohios]

So you grew up with your family somewhere very American. Maybe in the South, the Midwest. You mentioned your football team. Did you have girlfriend?

[juniorvarsitycap]

Georgia, yeah. I met Olivia in high school. We got married a couple of years after graduation.

[ohios]

Did you take her to the prom?

[juniorvarsitycap]

Of course.

(cw: sterilization trauma)

[ohios]

When was that--2005 or so?

I was finishing my Red Room training. That was the year I had surgery so that I would not have babies that I might choose over the Red Room.

[ she arches an eyebrow, sits back a bit. ]

The way that you do things, your settling down with a house, a baby. I cannot have these things. I never could.

Re: (cw: sterilization trauma)

[juniorvarsitycap]

About that.

Look, I know you went through a lot of shit, things I don't understand. But you can have something like I had. Doesn't have to involve kids. I wasn't sure we were going to have any. She and I were enough.

[ohios]

No. I cannot. I cannot go to prom and find a nice girl and bring her flowers and have a- a house with a mortgage and a little sign that says if the dishwasher is dirty or not because there is someone else to keep putting dishes into it.

[juniorvarsitycap]

Why not?

(cw: ableist attitudes re: trauma)

[ohios]

Because it is too late! [ her voice gets heavy and strained--frustrated, exhausted. ] I missed my chance! You had time to have a life before you were broken. To find your wife, to learn how to find somebody and be with them! I do not have that. I do not even know how.

[juniorvarsitycap]

Yeah. Good for me. It's gone now. Sounds to me like the only thing stopping you is you.

[ohios]

That is bullshit and you know it is bullshit. What if I told you that the only thing stopping you from reconciling with your wife is you? See? Bullshit. No. We have issues. There are reasons we are not cut out for ... [ gestures ] All of that.

[juniorvarsitycap]

No, it's Olivia. Because she doesn't want it. I've reached out many, many times.

only you can stop yourself from having it if it's what you want.

[ohios]

It sounds like Olivia can stop it too.

[juniorvarsitycap]

Yeah, that was her choice.

[ohios]

So what makes you think I can just wake up on day and decide 'yes, alright, I will have relationship.' Like it is that easy.

[juniorvarsitycap]

If you don't decide, then you'll never put yourself out there. Not that I'm any expert on dating, but I'm pretty sure it takes some effort.

[ohios]

Yeah, I don't know what I expected. I am not drunk enough to have this conversation with you, Walker.