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the aftercare meme

"Aftercare is the process of attending to one another after intense feelings of a physical or psychological nature, usually relating to sexual and/or BDSM activities.

Some sexual experiences can be exhausting, and drain the participants of mental, emotional or physical energy. As a result, one or all participants may require emotional support, comfort, reassurance, and/or physical tenderness."

HOW TO PLAY:

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You can start in the beginning or middle of the experience/scene, but aftercare should be included in the scenario at some point. Although the meme is BDSM-based, other experiences that take some kind of heavy psychological/physical toll work, too.

WARNING: this meme includes sexual scenarios that may be triggering for some people. Please be aware of other people's preferences, and ask if you're unsure!

1. Hug it out. After a particularly rough tumble, sometimes the first thing you need is a good cuddle. Remind your significant other that you're there in the most simple yet sincere way.

2. Talk about it. Are there things you want to tell your lover about what just happened? Were you uncomfortable about one part of it, or maybe you want to try and go further next time? Or maybe you want to resume to normal and just talk about the weather. Whatever sets you most at ease.

3. First aid. It can be a whole lot of fun to be physically stimulated while having sex, but once its done, those red and blue marks might be a literal pain to deal with day-to-day. Rub some soothing creme onto those red welts, apply bandages or gauze for more severe wounds, and take care of your lover in any other way that might be necessary.

4. Massage. Work out those tight and tender muscles that got all wound up during intercourse. Besides, no one knows your lover's body like you do, so you should do your best to make them feel good and relaxed.

5. Clean up. Another great way to relax is to let water run over your sore skin. Whether in a shower or a bath (maybe you decided to up the romance and put candles all over the bathroom to make the aftercare even more intimate), it's a great way to come down from a sexual high together.

6. Praise. Some experiences can be tough mentally as well as physically. If you just went through a punishment scene together, it's important to let your lover know how proud you are of them, and that all is forgiven. Make it clear in no uncertain terms that once the sex is over, you still love them.

7. Take Care. Make them their favorite tea. Turn on their favorite song, or read to them from their favorite book. If they hadn't gotten their release during sex, take care of them physically, as well. You know what makes them feel better, so do it.

8. Together. Sometimes, all a person needs is to not be alone for a while after such intense sexual encounters. Watch some feel-good TV, eat some junk food together, or just stay under the sheets with your significant other for the rest of the night.

9. Other. Mix and match, or do something else you've been wanting to try.

Shamelessly reposted from an earlier meme. ♥

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[ The aftercare is as much for him as it is for her benefit. She wouldn't be able to handle simply harming him, she's not a sadist - her every game and experience with him have been acts of service. Her, giving him a service he didn't necessarily know he needed, at first. Then finding out what made him tick, and how to make him tick harder.

He may not let her wash his hair right away, but it doesn't mean she doesn't love what he does instead, is the bottom line. With a low laugh, her chest against his back, she draws him near. One arm wraps around his waist, her tail circling it from the other side, while her other hand reaches up to fondly scritch under his chin. ] Aww, are you being a cute little kitten for me, darling?

[He should be offended for being called a kitten, but he's in such relaxed bliss he just can't work up even a furrow of his brows. Also, the scratch under his chin actually feels nice.

He strokes her tail in return, and nudges his nose against her cheek just slightly, a small grin on his lips.]

Is it appropriate to call me that after what you just did to me?

[ She ducks her head and lets out a low laugh against his shoulder. ] What I did to you hardly counts as appropriate to begin with.

[ She kisses his bare shoulder, and sets her chin down on it. ]

Even though I'm the one with the tail, mm? [ Said tail swishes a little under the water, reacting to his petting. ]

How do you feel after all that, kitten?

You're right, it hardly does. But spanking a kitten? Tsk.

[He kisses her back on the cheek, as sweet as his pets to her tail.]

Good. Not quite the right word for it, but I am not sure how else to describe it. Relaxed? Loose? Drained? Relieved? None of them quite work.

Sexual catharsis? [ She is all for being helpful here, evidently. Her lips find his temple, then his not-yet wet hair. She holds him close, both hands around his waist now. ]

I was going to wash your hair, but you feel so comfortable in my arms here...

Ah! Yes, perfect phrasing. How clever you are with both words and the palm of your hands.

[He's practically purring, wiggling in her hold as if it would make himself sink into her more, like a pile of pillows.]

Oh, were you? That would be nice, but this is soothing, too. [He kisses her cheek and jaw a few more times, small and affectionate.]

[ No mention is necessary about how her palm feels a little sore - or rather, felt. In the middle of all that fussing about preparing a bath and drawing him into her arms in it, she's certainly been feeling better. By loads. ]

Anything that soothes. I was afraid of threading over the line of what feels like relief and what feels like punishment, but - you know that it isn't, right?

[A part of him is aware her palm must hurt, the sound of her strikes were loud and sharp, there was no way they wouldn't have stung eventually, too. But she would tell him not to fuss over her, so he would just have to sneak some things in, like right now he lifts that hand to his lips and kisses the flushed palm, letting water run down his mouth and chin.]

I do, I swear, I do. [He smirks against her palm.] I haven't done anything lately to warrant such punishment, after all.

[ He's sweeter than he has any right to be, and it makes her melt a little, so it's a problem. She chuckles at his tone, though, and moves her hand gently to tip his head to turn so she can kiss the corner of his lips again. ]

Hmmm...I'm not sure I'll dole it out as punishment. You took it so well, and your ass looks so pretty when it's red... It feels more like a reward. Would you like that?

[His head easily moves at the merest touch of her fingers, and grins lazily into the kiss.]

Yes... I would, honestly. [He pecks her on the lips for being so intelligent.] It's far too easy for me to be a bad person, your hand would spoil my arse for how much I would need it, otherwise.

[He jokes, but he's sure she intended for her idea to be conscientious of his past, and having her offer it like that did make the play feel less dirty. Well, dirty in a different way than how dirty the act was.]

[ She lets out a laugh under her breath, but drops a kiss to the back of his shoulder. She'll take him as he is, mean and petty and a survivor - you're an asshole, but you're my asshole, she would've said in other circumstances.

Right now, she thinks about that - rewarding him with spankings. ]

Let's do it like that, then. When you're very, very good, I'll take you over my knee and leave your arse red.

[ As she promises this, she leaves more kisses - along the column of his neck, then nipping at his earlobe. ] And then I'll fuck it.