the aftercare meme

[alkali]

"Aftercare is the process of attending to one another after intense feelings of a physical or psychological nature, usually relating to sexual and/or BDSM activities.

Some sexual experiences can be exhausting, and drain the participants of mental, emotional or physical energy. As a result, one or all participants may require emotional support, comfort, reassurance, and/or physical tenderness."

HOW TO PLAY:

1. comment with your characters
2. include preferences
3. roll and respond to others!

You can start in the beginning or middle of the experience/scene, but aftercare should be included in the scenario at some point. Although the meme is BDSM-based, other experiences that take some kind of heavy psychological/physical toll work, too.

WARNING: this meme includes sexual scenarios that may be triggering for some people. Please be aware of other people's preferences, and ask if you're unsure!

1. Hug it out. After a particularly rough tumble, sometimes the first thing you need is a good cuddle. Remind your significant other that you're there in the most simple yet sincere way.

2. Talk about it. Are there things you want to tell your lover about what just happened? Were you uncomfortable about one part of it, or maybe you want to try and go further next time? Or maybe you want to resume to normal and just talk about the weather. Whatever sets you most at ease.

3. First aid. It can be a whole lot of fun to be physically stimulated while having sex, but once its done, those red and blue marks might be a literal pain to deal with day-to-day. Rub some soothing creme onto those red welts, apply bandages or gauze for more severe wounds, and take care of your lover in any other way that might be necessary.

4. Massage. Work out those tight and tender muscles that got all wound up during intercourse. Besides, no one knows your lover's body like you do, so you should do your best to make them feel good and relaxed.

5. Clean up. Another great way to relax is to let water run over your sore skin. Whether in a shower or a bath (maybe you decided to up the romance and put candles all over the bathroom to make the aftercare even more intimate), it's a great way to come down from a sexual high together.

6. Praise. Some experiences can be tough mentally as well as physically. If you just went through a punishment scene together, it's important to let your lover know how proud you are of them, and that all is forgiven. Make it clear in no uncertain terms that once the sex is over, you still love them.

7. Take Care. Make them their favorite tea. Turn on their favorite song, or read to them from their favorite book. If they hadn't gotten their release during sex, take care of them physically, as well. You know what makes them feel better, so do it.

8. Together. Sometimes, all a person needs is to not be alone for a while after such intense sexual encounters. Watch some feel-good TV, eat some junk food together, or just stay under the sheets with your significant other for the rest of the night.

9. Other. Mix and match, or do something else you've been wanting to try.

Comments

roland deschain / the dark tower / ota

[tet]

3

[magician_king]

[Quentin isn't expecting a whole lot of tenderness in the aftermath. Magicians tell stories about gunslingers, and none of those involve a lot of tenderness, but he'd known what he was getting into, and isn't at all sorry to come out a little black, a little blue, and with a bitemark or two.

He doesn't ask for the aftercare, just lies on his aching back in the tangled sheets, and wonders why he can't seem to shake these shivers.]

[tet]

( – true, roland isn't a man possessed of much tenderness, but his reserves aren't all empty, either. his spine cracks as he stretches, turns onto his side, propped up by one elbow. he frowns, spying bruises in the shadowed places his fingers were, crescents that mark out his canines.

he's wordless when he shifts his body from the bed, but when he returns he's got a damp cloth between his hands, and he kneels back onto the mattress. )

Come here.

[magician_king]

[Parts of Quentin's body are different, even by the standards of this strange world. His shoulder and his knee are made of living wood, rolling when he sits himself up, shifting to mimic skin and muscle. He stretches, and shifts closer to him, letting out a quiet breath and shutting his eyes.]

I'll wear these for days. When you've walked far, far away from here, I'll still be behind you, smiling, tracing your teeth out idly with my fingertips.

[tet]

( the thought gives roland pause, eyes glancing down to quentin's knee. he's no objection to making an impression. his fingers lightly, reverently touch a particularly angry bruise near his hip, and then he presses the cold cloth against it. when he dips his head, his nose brushes the shoulder closes to him. )

Good wearing, I hope. ( eyes roll up to meet his. ) I'll have only the remembering of it.

[magician_king]

Fondly. Happily.

[Tilting his head in too, his forehead brushing Roland's other shoulder.]

Do you want one? It doesn't have to hurt.

[tet]

I'm not afeared of pain.

( his mouth slants, somewhere between a smile and a question. )

What kind of mark are you thinking of?

[magician_king]

Anything you'd like. A little light magic.

[He cracks his knuckles, and decides it's easiest to show him on himself- so he whispers a quick couplet in basque, in time with a few darting, flexing movement of his fingers, and when he's done the tips of each glow with colour.

He reaches down, and draws a green zig-zag over his own leg, leaving something like a tattoo.]

Lasts a couple of weeks.