ladyboneranon ([personal profile] ladyboneranon) wrote in [community profile] bakerstreet2013-01-18 10:39 am

The BDSM Lifestyle Meme

The BDSM Lifestyle Meme

BDSM isn't all about the sex. Sure, handcuffs, whips and chains, toys, power and control-play can be fun, but sometimes it's about the other stuff too. The little stuff. The ways you and your partner give yourselves to each other every day.

So this is a meme to play out safe, sane, consensual and maybe even non-sexual BDSM.



If you want more information, check out:
The Ten Golden Rules of BDSM Negotiation
Sexuality.Org's BDSM Index
The Keys to A Relationship
Extreme Restraints
Be warned: Threads and prompts below may contain triggers, and will contain sexual content.


THE EVERYDAY:
1. feeding: using him as a plate? having her kneel and accept hand-feeding? maybe someone's been very good and should have a tasty reward.
2. bathing: after all, you have to take care of your partner. it's nice to have someone to get lotion in those hard-to-reach places.
3. talking/therapy: how are you going to work out this relationship? what obstacles do you have to overcome?
4. massage: some intimate relaxation.
5. dates: it's good to go out every once in a while.
6. negotiation: to work out what kinks are and are not okay.
7. nonsexual bondage: gags, bridles, chastity belts. some people just like the security of bondage in everyday life.
8. humiliation/in public: take your pet out to show her off; bend him over a bench and spank him for bad behavior.
9. animal play: pony play, pet play.
10. punishment/discipline: someone's been bad. maybe it's time for a time-out. or maybe someone has to clean the bathroom with a toothbrush.
11. other

THE SEXUAL:
1. the light stuff: some handcuffs, some ropes. nothing too extreme. maybe one partner or the other is afraid; maybe it's just time to take a break from the trappings and have some love-making.
2. bondage: chains, or elaborately knotted ropes, or full-body bindings. maybe even suspension in midair.
3. caning/whipping/spanking: for punishment and for enjoyment of the pain.
4. shaving: you like them with smooth skin. no beards, no lovetrail, no hairy legs.
5. piercing/tattooing: a permanent mark of devotion.
6. sensory deprivation: gags, blindfolds, earplugs, to shut out the rest of the world.
7. as therapy: exploring a past trauma or fear.
8. first time: one partner or another is experiencing the kink lifestyle for the first time.
9. kink parties: for casual play. mind the rules; drugs and alcohol are rarely tolerated, and all play must be consensual. or else the host or hostess might get angry.
10. orgasm denial/forced orgasm: until they beg for it, or beg you to stop.
11. ageplay: perhaps someone wants to be treated like a child. maybe a little daddy or mommy kink to go along with it.
12. role-play: taking on roles. master-slave, teacher-student, dragon prince and slave-dancer -- your imagination's the limit.
13. genital torture: pain where you're the most sensitive.
14. electricity: to give things a spark.
15. medical fetish: sounding, stirrups, speculums -- oh, doctor.
16. fucking machines: it'll keep in the same rhythm, no matter how much you beg.
17. other

Please do NOT leave your comment blank! (Blank comments will not be deleted, but we highly recommend that you post something.) Either write a note on desired kinks/undesired kinks or create a scenario or fill out the textarea below:



Note that this meme is for BDSM, not for non-consensual sex! You may play anything you want, but respect that many players on here are going to be here for exploration of consensual kink.

Feel free to plan your threads here before jumping in to RP.

If any threads cross over into harassment or do not respect boundaries set, please report them to me and I'll get rid of them.
fixedpointintime: (Default)

Jack Harkness | Doctor Who / Torchwood | OTA

[personal profile] fixedpointintime 2013-01-19 11:30 pm (UTC)(link)
YOUR CHARACTER: Jack can not stay dead. He has extremely accelerated healing, so the rougher stuff is totally open. He also has guilt issues and occasionally goes dark enough to want to be punished. He also has absolutely zero body shame or issues with any kind of expression of consensual sexuality.

SEEKING: Looking for someone inexperienced who needs to be guided through their paces, or possibly someone very experienced to give him the kind of easy release he's looking for. Cruelty is not something he's interested in, either giving or receiving. Consent is very important to him.
KINKS
YES: bondage, spanking, piercing, sensory deprivation, orgasm denial, electricity, sounding, suspension, intoxication.
MAYBE: snuff, genital torture, mind control, guro.
NO: scat, vore, watersports, non-con
perversehealer: (confidence)

ooc (sorry for tldr XD; )

[personal profile] perversehealer 2013-01-21 09:59 am (UTC)(link)
Not sure how you feel about OCs. If you're fine with it, I think I can work with both scenarios, whichever you want to play more.

Matthias isn't inexperienced with the concept of sex, and does have a fascination with anatomy, but he generally limited in terms of kink due to not being wholly aware of some things (growing up in a post-apocalyptic wasteland made him focus more on survival than getting his rocks off in different ways.) I can play him from a modern AU or under the impression that he's aware that he's not in his world anymore.

While I can't work with your maybe's list, I'm fine with (and encourage! <3) your yes list with the exception of piercing. Intoxication will need to be discussed, since alcohol has an adverse effect on Matthias (his body is weakened from using his healing/shielding powers so much.) He is also highly unlikely to take advantage of anyone who is drunk. Willingly under the effects of aphrodisiacs/concoctions, however, are an exception (he has a unique green thumb.) But, consent is also a major thing for him.

So long as it was discussed (either implied or actually threaded out) he'd probably be alright with giving Jack some amount of physical punishment.

Whatever you decide, please let me know. :)
fixedpointintime: (Default)

no problem. sorry about the delay. real life ate me for a bit

[personal profile] fixedpointintime 2013-01-26 07:20 am (UTC)(link)
The maybe list is more for the people who are looking to play that specifically, because I know sometimes it's difficult to find someone who's willing, and Jack is one of very few characters who can handle it. His body can take a lot of punishment.

Jack doesn't need physical punishment. He's a pretty happy guy most of the time.

Anyway, yes, if you want to set something up, I'm sure we can find a scenario that they'll both enjoy.