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☼ ([personal profile] californias) wrote in [community profile] bakerstreet2017-01-01 01:05 pm

BDSM Lifestyle

The BDSM Lifestyle Meme

BDSM isn't all about the sex. Sure, handcuffs, whips and chains, toys, power and control-play can be fun, but sometimes it's about the other stuff too. The little stuff. The ways you and your partner give yourselves to each other every day.

So this is a meme to play out safe, sane, consensual and maybe even non-sexual BDSM.


If you want more information, check out:
          The Ten Golden Rules of BDSM Negotiation
          Sexuality.Org's BDSM Index
          Extreme Restraints

Be warned: Threads and prompts below may contain triggers, and will contain sexual content.

THE EVERYDAY:
  1. feeding: using him as a plate? having her kneel and accept hand-feeding? maybe someone's been very good and should have a tasty reward.
  2. bathing: after all, you have to take care of your partner. it's nice to have someone to get lotion in those hard-to-reach places.
  3. talking/therapy: how are you going to work out this relationship? what obstacles do you have to overcome?
  4. massage: some intimate relaxation.
  5. dates: it's good to go out every once in a while.
  6. negotiation: to work out what kinks are and are not okay.
  7. nonsexual bondage: gags, bridles, chastity belts. some people just like the security of bondage in everyday life.
  8. humiliation/in public: take your pet out to show her off; bend him over a bench and spank him for bad behavior.
  9. animal play: pony play, pet play.
  10. punishment/discipline: someone's been bad. maybe it's time for a time-out. or maybe someone has to clean the bathroom with a toothbrush.
  11. other
THE SEXUAL:
  1. the light stuff: some handcuffs, some ropes. nothing too extreme. maybe one partner or the other is afraid; maybe it's just time to take a break from the trappings and have some love-making.
  2. bondage: chains, or elaborately knotted ropes, or full-body bindings. maybe even suspension in midair.
  3. caning/whipping/spanking: for punishment and for enjoyment of the pain.
  4. shaving: you like them with smooth skin. no beards, no lovetrail, no hairy legs.
  5. piercing/tattooing: a permanent mark of devotion.
  6. sensory deprivation: gags, blindfolds, earplugs, to shut out the rest of the world.
  7. as therapy: exploring a past trauma or fear.
  8. first time: one partner or another is experiencing the kink lifestyle for the first time.
  9. kink parties: for casual play. mind the rules; drugs and alcohol are rarely tolerated, and all play must be consensual. or else the host or hostess might get angry.
  10. orgasm denial/forced orgasm: until they beg for it, or beg you to stop.
  11. ageplay: perhaps someone wants to be treated like a child. maybe a little daddy or mommy kink to go along with it.
  12. role-play: taking on roles. master-slave, teacher-student, dragon prince and slave-dancer -- your imagination's the limit.
  13. genital torture: pain where you're the most sensitive.
  14. electricity: to give things a spark.
  15. medical fetish: sounding, stirrups, speculums -- oh, doctor.
  16. fucking machines: it'll keep in the same rhythm, no matter how much you beg.
  17. other
Please do NOT leave your comment blank! (Blank comments will not be deleted, but we highly recommend that you post something.) Either write a note on desired kinks/undesired kinks or create a scenario or fill out the textarea below:

Source credit: [personal profile] memesnthings

chortling: (pic#10766786)

Prokopenko | The Raven Cycle

[personal profile] chortling 2017-01-01 06:13 pm (UTC)(link)
[sub. Open to any of the prompts. Partial to 7, 8 and 10 in everyday and 2, 3, 5, 10, 13, 16 in sexual.]
tws_bucky: (Default)

Bucky Barnes | MCU | M/M

[personal profile] tws_bucky 2017-01-01 06:18 pm (UTC)(link)
[Pass on medical stuff. Kinks.]
iisupergirlii: (chained)

Kara Danvers | Supergirl | OTA

[personal profile] iisupergirlii 2017-01-01 06:23 pm (UTC)(link)
[info | kinks. I could see her trying out some stuff for the first time (more on the subby side, especially with human characters). Not a fan of: feeding, bathing, shaving, animal play, age play, and roleplay would probably be hilariously faily. But everything else is golden!]
runningwithwolves: (Default)

Stiles Stilinski - Teen Wolf - M/M

[personal profile] runningwithwolves 2017-01-01 06:59 pm (UTC)(link)
(Sub. Open to almost everything)
ramblingman: (Sultry)

Dean Winchester - SPN - ota

[personal profile] ramblingman 2017-01-01 07:15 pm (UTC)(link)
[ Sub for ladies, either role for m/m. Castmates adored. No animals, age play or medical. ]
snarkycomments: (pic#10510545)

Stiles Stilinski | Teen Wolf | OTA

[personal profile] snarkycomments 2017-01-01 07:18 pm (UTC)(link)
[Sub preference. kinks. Cross-canon and au are welcome.]
whatisstarwars: (side eye)

[personal profile] whatisstarwars 2017-01-02 08:48 am (UTC)(link)
[ You down for a best friend Dom?]

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Yuri Plisetsky | Yuri!!! on ICE | OTA

[personal profile] rinktwink 2017-01-01 07:19 pm (UTC)(link)
[Uppity sub. Underage warning: Yuri is 15.
Tags are likely to be slow from my end, sorry. Couldn't resist this meme, though.]
power_man: (Default)

Luke Cage | Marvel 616/MCU | ota

[personal profile] power_man 2017-01-01 07:33 pm (UTC)(link)
[Dom, unless there's some real good convincing. Good with everything except animal play, humiliation, medical, and genital torture.]
hellcattily: (Default)

[personal profile] hellcattily 2017-01-01 10:18 pm (UTC)(link)
[care to top this kitten?]

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Billy Kaplan | Marvel 616 | m/m

[personal profile] noassgardian 2017-01-01 07:47 pm (UTC)(link)
[Dom, unless there's some real good convincing. Good with everything except animal play, humiliation, medical, and genital torture.]
quadsalchow: (Default)

Katsuki Yuri | Yuri!!! on Ice | OTA

[personal profile] quadsalchow 2017-01-01 09:07 pm (UTC)(link)
[ Open to some medical stuff, but no sounding, please. Genital torture is also a hard no. Kinks are here, feel free to PM or comment to discuss! Yuri can be the dom or the sub, so let me know if you have any preferences. ]
gundamofthedesert: (sweater)

[personal profile] gundamofthedesert 2017-01-02 04:23 am (UTC)(link)
[Would you be up for doing something with Quatre here? Quatre could either be sub or dom so I have no preference]

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insidejobs: (Shadows)

Angela Moss | MR ROBOT | OTA

[personal profile] insidejobs 2017-01-01 09:35 pm (UTC)(link)
(Sub. No on animal play and medical. Open to anything else.)
herrin: lexgraphix (Default)

irene adler | bbc's sherlock

[personal profile] herrin 2017-01-01 09:49 pm (UTC)(link)
( you rang? obviously a domme, not a fan of animal play, genital torture, electricity, or medical stuff. if you have a particular kink in mind, feel free to ask! )
pinkstreaking: (Default)

[personal profile] pinkstreaking 2017-01-02 07:39 am (UTC)(link)
[tie up an uptight femme and help her calm the hell down?]
im_gonna_heal_u: (Default)

Konoka Konoe | Mahou Sensei Negima | OTA

[personal profile] im_gonna_heal_u 2017-01-01 09:56 pm (UTC)(link)
[[Switch, leans sub. See her journal for info and kinks. Ask about animal, medical play, humiliation, or public. No genital torture. Open to anything else; partial to everyday 3, 5-7, and 10 and sexual 2, 6, 10-12.]]
Edited 2017-01-01 21:56 (UTC)
eternalprincess: (Default)

[personal profile] eternalprincess 2017-01-02 01:01 am (UTC)(link)
[ Want to top a princess? ]

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biochemistry: (what will bring me home)

Jemma Simmons | Agents of SHIELD

[personal profile] biochemistry 2017-01-01 10:00 pm (UTC)(link)
[one supersub seeking a very pretty and not too cruel dominant (she's a very good girl but she's a gentle heart), ota with f/f preference; kink list here, interested in everyday 2-7 and sexual 1, 2, 6, 7, 9]
mendacium: (to be the tough guy with an appetite)

Nora Gainesborough | True Blood

[personal profile] mendacium 2017-01-01 10:05 pm (UTC)(link)
[almost always domme, ota; kinks here, up for everything but everyday 1 and 9 and sexual 4, 5, 13-16]
whiplike: (pic#10717791)

Nymeria Sand | GOT/ASOIAF

[personal profile] whiplike 2017-01-01 10:15 pm (UTC)(link)
[switch depending on who's asking, ota; vague kinks here, ask if unsure, yes to everyday all but 9 and sexual all but 4, 5, 11-16]
trialcaptain: (067)

ilima ( pokemon ) m/m

[personal profile] trialcaptain 2017-01-01 10:34 pm (UTC)(link)
( kinks/info, leans toward sub but a switch. open to all prompts. )
swordprincess: (Default)

Karla | Fire Emblem | OTA

[personal profile] swordprincess 2017-01-01 10:51 pm (UTC)(link)
[Sub, but no animal play, plz.]
nippinatyournose: (10)

Jack Frost | Rise of the Guardians | ota

[personal profile] nippinatyournose 2017-01-01 10:54 pm (UTC)(link)
[ bring on the big!subs ]
justfast: (Default)

[personal profile] justfast 2017-01-02 09:15 am (UTC)(link)
[ Dom the hell out of hiiiiim.]

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tony stark ℼ 616 ℼ ota

[personal profile] amelioraate 2017-01-01 11:09 pm (UTC)(link)
[ Tony is a bisexual switch (he will sub, bust mostly only for canonmates that he has built trust in, but ask and we can work something I AM SURE). Love for all of the everyday prompts, and the only hard nos are 7, 11, 13, and 15. Also, I am totally find writing the starter. ]
gotup: (8)

[personal profile] gotup 2017-01-01 11:12 pm (UTC)(link)
[ nudges. I'm lazy, care to write the starter? :p ]

oh i love you

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well here goes

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i pretend NOTHING bc it's gr8

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volitans: (65)

sam wilson | mcu | ota

[personal profile] volitans 2017-01-01 11:21 pm (UTC)(link)
[ bisexual switch. looking for everyday 2-6, 8 (public, no humiliation), sexual 1, 2, 6-8, 10. (hard nos: 3, 11-13, 15 & 16, everyday 9.) established cr or canonmates preferred. kinks & permissions linked in profile. ]
antihydra: (Default)

[personal profile] antihydra 2017-01-02 01:00 am (UTC)(link)
( ooc up for trying a sexual 1+8 with Steve? )

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heypreacher: (pic#10550922)

Jesse Custer | Preacher [AMC flavor] | OTA

[personal profile] heypreacher 2017-01-02 01:25 am (UTC)(link)
[Mostly interested in femdom but up for some m/m too. Prompts that are good to go, Everyday 5-8, 10 and Sexual 1-6, 8-10, 13-17]
beta: (Default)

Derek Hale | Teen Wolf | M/M

[personal profile] beta 2017-01-02 03:08 am (UTC)(link)
[ Dom, open to just about anything. ]
Edited 2017-01-02 03:09 (UTC)
klaus: (Default)

Niklaus Mikaelson | The Originals | M/M

[personal profile] klaus 2017-01-02 03:09 am (UTC)(link)
[ Dom, open to just about anything. ]
papercutter: (unsure)

Hitagi Senjougahara | Monogatari Series | OTA

[personal profile] papercutter 2017-01-02 05:45 am (UTC)(link)
[ Domme. Up for anything but more hardcore stuff is less likely. She is very fond of degradation. ]
Edited 2017-01-02 05:46 (UTC)

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